WE GET CAUGHT IN OUR OWN FANTASY MOVIE THAT WE CREATE
THE INTROVERT WORLD THAT WE LIVE IN
WHERE I AM GREAT AND POWERFUL AND HAS UTMOST CONTROL OF MYSELF AND ENVIRONMENT WHERE I ACHIEVE FANTASY SELF ACTUALIZATION
I HAVE SOLVED ALL THE PROBLEM AND IS ABLE TO SOLVE ALL CHALLENGES, POPULAR, WANTED, POWERFUL, WEALTHY, THE IDEAL SELF I WANT TO BE
HOWEVER, THIS DREAM CAN TURN INTO NIGHTMARE BECAUSE OF EXTERNAL FACTORS, THE REAL WORLD
THE FANTASY HAS DISTORTED THE VALUE OF WHAT IS TO MY PREFERENCE, MY WORLD
WHAT I ENJOY IS LIVING THE FANTASY WORLD IN THE MIND AND IT IS DIFFERENT THAN WHAT I AM DOING IN THE PHYSICAL WORLD
PHYSICAL ACTIVITIES GET IN THE WAY OF THE FAVORITE ACTIVITY
THE MORE I SPEND TIME AND ATTACH TO THE FANTASY ACTIVITY, THE SMALLER MY COMFORT ZONE IS.
I GET MORE UNCOMFORTABLE WHEN I AM OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE AND GET MY ENERGY USED UP VERY QUICKLY FOR THE WEAR AND TEAR, LIKE ASKING A RIGHTHANDED TO WRITE LEFTHANDED.
THIS NIGHTMARE IS ANYTHING THAT IS NOT IN MY COMFORT ZONE
THE MAINTENANCE PHASE IN THE CHANGE PROCESS THAT I GO THROUGH
THE SMALLER MY COMFORT ZONE, THE BIGGER THE NIGHTMARE
THE CURSE OF AN INTROVERT
THE EXTROVERT TENDS TO CONTROL OTHERS AND ENVIRONMENT WITH LACK OF WISDOM, THE INTROVERT AVOID OTHERS AND ENVIRONMENT AND PLAY IN SIMULATION ROOM TO CONTROL THEIR HARDWARE AND ENVIRONMENT
EXTROVERT CONTROL SELF BY CONTROLLING OTHERS, INTROVERT CONTROL OTHERS BY CONTROLLING SELF
THE NIGHTMARE FOR INTROVERT IS WHEN THEY MUST GO OUT AND DO ACTIVITY AND RELATE TO OTHERS, ESPECIALLY WITH NOT SO CLOSE FRIENDS AND UNFAMILIAR PLACES AND INCOMPETENCE ACTIVITIES.
THE NIGHTMARE FOR THE EXTROVERT IS WHEN THEY MUST GO IN AND GET CLOSE AND PERSONAL WITH FAMILIAR PEOPLE AND FAMILIAR PLACES OR UNCHALLENGE ACTIVITIES.
WE EXPERIENCE NIGHTMARE WHEN THE EXTROVERT WORLD DON'T FIT OUR PREFERENCE IN MAINTENANCE PHASE, WHEN THE EXTERNAL FACTORS DON'T FIT OUR EXPECTATION, WHEN THE EXTERNAL WORLD DON'T FIT OUR INTERNAL FANTASY. WE EXPERIENCE LESS CONTROL OF EXTERNAL FACTORS THAN WE DO IN OUR FANTASY. INTROVERT WILL TRY TO CONTROL SELF MORE TO CONTROL ENVIRONMENT WHERE EXTROVERT WILL CONTROL THE ENVIRONMENT. INTROVERT FEELS THAT THEY STILL LACK POWER TO CONTROL.
THIS IS ALSO CAUSED BY BEING PART OF SOCIAL SYSTEM THAT HAS DIFFERENT AGENDA THAN INDIVIDUAL. SOCIAL SYSTEM USE STANDARDIZED RULES AND COMMITMENT THAT HAS DIFFERENT RHYTHM THAN OUR FLUCTUATED BODY, LIKE RELATIONSHIP, EMPLOYMENT, SOCIAL ACTIVITIES. WE ALSO DEAL WITH OTHERS THAT HAS FLUCTUATED BODY THAT HAS DIFFERENT RHYTHM WITH OUR INDIVIDUAL BODY. A MOTHER TELL HER SON TO DO SOMETHING WHEN HE DOESN'T WANT TO, A TEACHER TEACH A STUDENT WHEN HE DOESN'T WANT TO. IT IS NOT A QUESTION OF THAT HE DOESN'T WANT TO, BUT WHEN. MY BOSS WANT ME TO DO SOMETHING WHEN I DON'T WANT TO.
WE ALSO HAVE DIFFERENT PREFERENCE. MY BOSS MAY ASK ME TO DO SOMETHING THAT I DON'T WANT TO. MY SPOUSE LIKE TO DO SOMETHING THAT I DON'T LIKE AND VICE VERSA.
THIS EXTERNAL FACTORS CREATE NIGHTMARE MORE FOR THE INTROVERT. FOR THE EXTROVERT, THE NIGHTMARE MAY BE FELT BY THE OTHERS WHO IS CHANGED BY THE EXTROVERT. EXTROVERT SOLVE PROBLEMS BY CHANGING OTHERS OR FIXING OTHERS AND ADDING SOMETHING NEW. INTROVERT SOLVE PROBLEMS BY CHANGING SELF OR FIXING SELF OR ADDING SELF. SO, EXTROVERT FEELS THAT OTHERS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR MY PROBLEMS WHERE INTROVERT FEELS THAT I FEEL RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHERS PROBLEMS.
A BOY WHO FANTASIZE TO BE SUPERHERO AND IDENTIFY WITH THE SUPERHERO IS TRYING TO DEAL WITH HIS ENVIRONMENT. THIS IS THE INTROVERT WAY OF SUPERSIZE ONE SELF TO OVERCONTROL THE ENVIRONMENT. THE EXTROVERT CHILD WILL JUST SCREAM TO UNDERSIZE OTHERS.
THE INTROVERT WILL SPEND FUTILE WAYS TO SUPERSIZE ONESELF AND EXTROVERT WILL TRY TO UNDERSIZE OTHERS UNTIL THEY LEARN TO SEPARATE BOUNDARY BETWEEN SELF AND OTHERS. THIS SYMBIOTIC EXISTENCE IS PART OF DEVELOPMENT WHERE THE WAR OF LIFE HAPPENS. THIS IS WHERE WE USE OUR MASK AND SHELL TO PROTECT OURSELVES.
WE MUST LEARN THAT WE CAN CONTROL OURSELVES BUT NOT OTHERS. WE ARE NOT CREATED THAT WAY. INTROVERT MUST LEARN THAT THEY DON'T HAVE TO SUPERSIZE THEMSELVES TO CONTROL OTHERS. AND EXTROVERT MUST LEARN THAT THEY DON'T CONTROL SELF BY CONTROLLING OTHERS.
HAVE A BOUNDARY BETWEEN SELF AND ENVIRONMENT, BETWEEN SELF AND OTHERS. WE CAN ONLY MEET OUR OWN NEEDS, IT'S NOT THE SAME AS CONTROLLING OURSELF. DON'T OVERCONTROL OURSELVES.
WE USE SYMBOLIC GESTURE WHEN WE ACT TALK. WE EXPRESS SYMBOL THAT HAS MEANING/CONNOTATION. POLITENESS AND MANNER IS AN EXAMPLE OF THIS GESTURE. PEOPLE USE THIS GESTURE FOR TWO PURPOSE AS OIL TO SMOOTH RELATIONSHIP OR TO HIDE SOMETHING. SMOOTHING RELATIONSHIP CAN BE A SCAM TO SPEED UP GOING UP LADDER OF RELATIONSHIP. IN A WAY, I'D LIKE TO TELL PEOPLE THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE POLITE OR ACT NICE TO ME, JUST DON'T VIOLATE ME. SEE THE PRESYMBOLIC GESTURE BEYOND THE SYMBOLIC MEANING/CONNOTATION. SOME PEOPLE CONFUSE WHEN THEY ACT NICE AND POLITE BUT RECEIVE A REGULAR FEEDBACK. THEY THINK THAT BY ACTING EXTRA NICE THEY SHOULD GET EXTRA PLATE OF FOOD.
FOR AN ABSTRACT PERSON, FOCUS ON BREATH TO GO BACK TO CONCRETE SENSE FOR FEELING IS ABSTRACT INTERNAL SENSE AND MIND IS ABSTRACT EXTERNAL SENSE. NUMB THE FEELING AND MIND BY FOCUSING ON THE BREATH.
FOR A CONCRETE PERSON, FOCUS ON THE BREATH TO GET IN TOUCH WITH NATURAL RHYTHM OF LIFE TO BE LESS RIGID AND OVERCONCRETE.
FOR INTROVERT, FOCUSING ON BREATH TO GET IN TOUCH WITH BODY AND LESS WITH MIND AND FEELING
FOR EXTROVERT, FOCUSING ON BREATH TO GET IN TOUCH WITH ITSELF RATHER THAN OTHERS AND ENVIRONMENT
FOR LOGICAL, FOCUSING ON BREATH TO GET IN TOUCH WITH NATURAL RHYTHM AND LESS WITH LOGIC
FOR FEELING, FOCUSING ON BREATH TO NEUTRALIZE TO NATURAL RHYTHM RATHER THAN HIJACKED BY FEELING
FOR PERCEPTION TYPE, FOCUSING ON BREATH TO SEE ACTION IN MOTION
FOR JUDGEMENT TYPE, FOCUSING ON BREATH TO LEARN TO OBSERVE
BY OBSERVING BREATH, OUR NATURAL SELF WILL MAKE APPEARANCE.
FOR INTROVERT, THE EXTROVERT WILL APPEAR
FOR EXTROVERT, THE INTROVERT WILL APPEAR
FOR THINKER, THE FEELING WILL APPEAR
FOR FEELER, THE THINKING WILL APPEAR
FOR CONCRETE, ABSTRACT WILL APPEAR
FOR ABSTRACT, CONCRETE WILL APPEAR
FOR PERCEPTION, THE JUDGE WILL APPEAR
FOR JUDGING, THE PERCEPTION WILL APPEAR
THE UNDERDEVELOPED IS ASKING TO APPEAR. OUR WORST NIGHTMARE. OUR SHADOW. OUTSIDE OF OUR COMFORT ZONE. BY DEVELOPING THIS UNDERDEVELOPED, WE BECOME MORE FLEXIBLE AND OPENMINDED.
ABSTRACT EXTROVERT ARE SOCIAL, HUMANITY, SPIRITUAL LEADERS
ABSTRACT INTROVERT ARE ARTIST, PHILOSOPHERS, AND HEALER
No comments:
Post a Comment