MEANING AND STRUCTURE

WHEN TALKING, WE DON'T CONCERN WITH TALKING ITSELF.
WE CONCERN WITH THE CREATING OF THE TALKING, THE THINKING.
WE CONCERN WITH MEANING.

WHEN WE LISTEN, WE CONCERN WITH THE LISTENING.
WE CONCERN WITH STRUCTURE OF THE LANGUAGE, ONLY THE STRUCTURE.

ACTUALLY, COMMUNICATION INVOLVES LISTENING AND CREATING IDEA AND TALKING. THE LISTENING AND TALKING CONCERN WITH STRUCTURE, THEY ARE LINGUISTIC MECHANIC. OUR LEFT BRAIN LOOK FOR STRUCTURE IN PARTICIPATING AND CREATING CONVERSATION.

HOWEVER, STRUCTURE DOESN'T CREATE PROBLEMS AS MUCH AS MEANING. IT HAPPENS IN THE SECOND STEP.
WE CREATE MEANING (IDEA) ALL THE TIME AND SOMETIMES AS THE RESULT OF HEARING SOMETHING OR SEEING SOMETHING (FROM ENVIRONMENT) AND WE SOMETIMES USE SYMBOLS (LANGUAGE) TO CHANGE ENVIRONMENT OR SIMPLY AS ENJOYMENT, MOSTLY TO CHANGE SOMETHING.

IGNORANT BELIEVES TALKING AND LISTENING CAN MOVE THINGS, LIKE TALKING TO A CHAIR CAN MOVE A CHAIR. LIKE THINKING ABOUT MOVING A CHAIR CAN MOVE A CHAIR. TO MOVE A CHAIR, WE HAVE TO MOVE THE CHAIR.

SO THEY HAVE AN IDEA AND USE TALKING AND LISTENING TO REALIZE THEIR IDEA. SO COMMUNICATION IS NOT EXCHANGE OF IDEA, IT IS REALIZATION OF SOMEONE'S IDEA OR AGENDA. TALKING AND LISTENING IS ONLY TOOLS TO MAKE US FEEL CERTAIN WAY. LIKE MUSIC, WE SING OR LISTEN TO MUSIC TO MAKE US FEEL CERTAIN WAY. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING: HOW DOES IT MAKE ME FEEL.

THINKING IS A STREAM THAT FLOWS CONTINOUSLY. OUR FEELING AND HABITUAL SENSES AND ACTION ARE LIKE WAVE THAT GO UP AND DOWN WITH THE STREAM. OUR CONSCIOUS THINKING, SENSING AND ACTIONS ARE LIKE THE INCOMPETENT BOAT. THIS IS OUR SELF CONSCIOUSNESS THAT ARISE WITH INCOMPETENCE.

THE STRONGER THE BOAT FIGHT, THE STRONGER THE STREAM AND THE WAVE. BECAUSE THE STREAM AND WAVE IS STRONGER THAN THE BOAT. WHAT THE BOAT WANTS IS DIFFERENT THAN THE STREAM'S AND THE BOAT IS TOO SMALL IS PART OF THE STREAM. OUR SELF CONSCIOUSNESS IS TOO SMALL AND IS PART OF OUR MIND-BODY (HABITUAL (NATURE-NURTURE/BODY-MIND) PROCESS).

SELF CONSCIOUSNESS IS THE LEFTOVER FROM THE PAST, THE FREEZING REACTION OF FEAR. IN HUMAN, IT IS DELAYED FEAR DUE TO COGNITION. OUR MIND IS IN CLOSED- MODE AND WE TAKE OVER TO MANUALLY STEER THE BOAT INSTEAD OF LETTING AUTOPILOT.

TALKING AND LISTENING ARE ACTION, MORE POWERFUL THAN ACTION OR BODY LANGUAGE BECAUSE OF THE LIMITLESS ABILITY OF LANGUAGE. WE CAN'T DIRECT PEOPLE PHYSICALLY BECAUSE IT IS ILLEGAL. WE CAN'T DIRECT PEOPLE EMOTIONALLY (NGAMBEK) BECAUSE IT IS UPSETTING. ACTUALLY, OUR ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN OUR WORDS IF WE STOP GIVING POWER TO THE WORDS.

TALKING AND LISTENING IS NOT AS IMPORTANT AS THE IDEA/MEANING A PERSON'S TRYING TO REALIZE.

OUR ACTION AND THINKING MAY LOOK CONSCIOUS TO US, BUT WE CAN SEE IN OTHERS THAT IT IS UNCONSCIOUS, BECAUSE WE ONLY SEE WHAT IS CONSCIOUS. LIKE WE HAVE A BIG SCREEN AND CAN ONLY SEE THE SCREEN IN FRONT OF US. BUT OTHERS WHO SEE US CAN SEE THE STREAM AND WAVES.

SO, WE TRY TO STEER THE BOAT MANUALLY, BUT THE STREAM AND WAVES ARE GETTING STRONGER BECAUSE WE ARE FIGHTING THE STREAM. WE FORCE THE BOAT TO GO AGAINST THE STREAM OR WE ARE TRYING TO STOP THE STREAM OR CALM THE WAVES.

SO, WHAT MATTERS IS NOT THE TALKING OR LISTENING, IS HE FIGHTING THE STREAM? DOES HE HAVE A STRONG OR MILD STREAM AND WAVES? IS HE IN DENIAL? IS A PERSON TRY TO STOP THE STREAM OR CALM THE WAVES?

IN LISTENING, JUST PAY ATTENTION TO THE MODES OF COMMUNICATION, REPORT, INFERENCE, AND JUDGEMENT. IN TALKING, PAY ATTENTION TO THE MODES OF THINKING, DIRECT EXPERIENCE, REPRESENTATION, AND IMAGES.

BECAUSE WHEN TALKING, WE DON'T PAY ATTENTION TO THE TALKING. WE WILL SAY WHATEVER TO GET SOMETHING OR TO MAKE ME FEEL SOMETHING. WE CAN BE FOOLED BY THE LISTENING.

 SENSING IS REACTING.
SENSING (6 SENSES) - ACTION - SENSING (FEEDBACK) - ACTION
EXPERIENCE IS LIKE A STREAM.

OUR ACTION DEPENDS ON OUR SENSING, ESPECIALLY THE MIND SENSE WHO SENSE "THE WORLD". WHAT KIND OF WORLD DO WE LIVE AT?

COMMUNICATING (TALKING AND WRITING) IS ACTION. THINKING AND FEELING ARE NOT. THEY ARE SENSES. THEY ARE SOMETHING WE PERCEIVE. HOWEVER, VERBAL THINKING IS ACTION. SOMETHING WE CAN CREATE.