escape

Human like to procrastinate, delaying unpleasant tasks and retreating to pleasant endeavors
It is probably natural to think that we try to avoid danger and pain
this is what makes us high maintainance

People go to therapy and spiritual retreat to avoid difficulty found in life
They even embark on spiritual or psychological journey to avoid the pain/suffering in life
it's like avoiding pothole by going around
However, we are chased by whatever we run away from
like we run away from something we are afraid of, but that thing will always make us run
where eventually we still have to deal with it, we are just delaying dealing with it or procrastinating to deal with it.
we just create more trouble along the way, learn bad habits, justification, deceptive, manipulative, and eventually we get really lost in our own lies and we don't even know why we run in the first place.
we become afraid to more and more things.
Because we give power to something that we avoid or deny until we deal with it.
If we are afraid of being abused, we always live under his power and try to please him.

IT'S GONNA HAPPEN ANYWAY, JUST GET IT OVER WITH THE FIRST TIME!!!
IF ONLY WE DEAL WITH IT THE FIRST TIME.

This has something to do with adulthood and maturity, the accountability and responsibility.
We are accountable for our happiness and suffering, pain and pleasure.
When we only want the happiness and pleasure and avoid the pain and suffering
we do it AT THE EXPENSE of others, that means somebody has to handle the pain and suffering

we always think ahead. we think absent objects or events. our present behavior was thought in the past.