2-15-2012 shawnee

I/me is the ideal or accepted self, others is the rejected or real self OR HIDDEN SELF. WHEN WE SEE MY IDEAL OR ACCEPTED SELF IN OTHERS, WE LIKE THAT PERSON. WHEN WE SEE REJECTED OR REAL SELF IN OTHERS, WE DON'T LIKE THAT PERSON.
It takes one to know one. We see others as ourselves.
A person who likes his another person BECAUSE THAT PERSON REMIND HIM TO HIS IDEAL SELF will like that person
A person who doesn't like another person BECAUSE THAT PERSON REMIND HIM OF HIS REJECTED SELF, that person brings the worst in me.
"A person is talking to his self" "a person is his own most enchanted listener"
We actually play a game for ourselves, other people are just sparring partners.

I RECOGNIZE OTHERS BECAUSE I RECOGNIZE MY GOOD OR BAD SIDE. WHEN HE REMINDS ME OF GOOD SIDE, I SEE THAT PERSON AS GOOD. WHEN HE REMINDS ME OF BAD SIDE, I SEE THAT PERSON AS BAD. I JUSTIFY BY BLAMING AND EXTERNALIZING ME ON OTHERS. I CAN ONLY REGULATE ME.

I PROJECT MYSELF ON OTHERS. OTHERS ARE MYSELF, MY PROJECTION, MY MANY FACES. TRYING TO MAINTAIN THE IDEAL SELF BY BLAMING OTHERS (THE REAL SELF). WHEN I SAY "PEOPLE" "WE" "YOU/HE/SHE/THEY", I AM TALKING ABOUT MYSELF.

I AM THE PEOPLE, I AM EVERYBODY, THE MANY FACES AND CHARACTERISTICS. SO IT'S A CONFLICT BETWEEN MY IDEAL AND REAL SELF, THE ACCEPTED AND REJECTED SELF. WHEN I GET UPSET, I SAY THAT HE UPSET ME, WHERE THE "HE" IS MY REAL SELF AND THE "ME" IS THE IDEAL SELF" SO, I LOVE WITH A PERSON WHO CONFORM WITH MY IDEAL SELF AND I HATE A PERSON WHO BRING OUT MY REAL REJECTED SELF. I CAN BE HAPPY AND UPSET WITH MY REAL SELF.

I attach to my self or others. In insecure or no attachment, we attach to others and regulate others. I AM OTHERS AND OTHERS ARE ME. In secure attachment, we regulate self and environment. I AM ME AND OTHERS ARE OTHERS.