Happiness

Happiness has nothing to do with pleasure or pain. Pleasure is a symptom of happiness but it's not happiness. Happiness is freedom, freedom from attachment or illusion. Freedom always comes with own accountability. Like children has limited freedom but less accountability/responsibility like working or being independent. Adults, on the other hand, has more freedom but more responsibility. Freedom without accountability is irresponsibility, because the freedom happen at the expense of someone else. So, it's not freedom from responsibility/accountability. In fact, a free person meets his own needs without burdening others, while sometimes, help meeting others' needs when he want to. Happiness is freedom from attachment to imagination, freedom from mara, freedom from this nightmare. Freedom from images of pleasure and pain. Freedom from reacting to imagination thought to be real. Freedom from pengalaman manis dan pahit.

Freedom/happiness leads to love because we can not love a person we are attached to. Attachment leads to subjectivity and subjectivity leads to like and hate. So, when we get what we want we like that person, when we don't we hate that person. Think about the time you experience pleasure, how easy to love the world and people. But, when hatred hijack us, people and the world are terrible place to live.

Pain always show up after pleasure and visa versa. We chase pleasure to avoid pain, but pain will come back after pleasure wear off and we are back to craving. We got intoxicated with pleasure and we crave for more. Infatuation works the same way, self gratification on impression of others.

OWN AND OWE IS THE OPPOSITE OF THE SCALE
WE DON'T OWE OUR LIFE TO ANYBODY, AT THE SAME TIME WE DON'T OWN OUR LIFE EITHER, BUT OWNING IT IS BETTER THAN OWING IT TO SOMEBODY