Monday, July 29, 2013

epigenetics



Sunday, July 28, 2013

Feelings


@Dr. Michael, Thank you for the response. No, it was not what I was saying. Emotions is unconscious and biological. The word "unconscious" just means we are not aware of it just like we are not aware of the flow of our blood. Emotional reaction is biological means there is a change in biological movement (heart rate, muscle tension, skin temperature) to something. Emotions doesn't become feelings because they are two different "things". Emotions is a biological reaction (emotional reaction) where feeling is how we "interpret and label" our experience of the reaction. They don't become conscious but it's something we can experience thru our internal senses. The subjective experience of emotions is feelings. Emotions doesn't dissapear when being awared just like heart beats doesn't dissapear when being awared. It is like with our visual experience, our eyes move all the time reacting and scanning our environment (this is emotion), but we focus on selective visual experience that we call "seeing" (this is feeling).

Emotion reacts to stimuli, including audio stimuli such as music. We usually say "music affects our emotion". If the music feels pleasant, "I like it". Since feeling is only label and interpretation of emotional reaction, MUSIC DOESN'T AFFECT FEELING. Music doesn't affect feelings just like we can't verbally ask a person "Could you get angry with me?" They will look at us like we are crazy. But, we can give them something to get angry about. That something is the stimuli that emotion reacts to. So, music affects emotion. The how part is another question. THat's what the excellent article that Imhe provided tried to answer.

Having said all that, we do have experience with music, listening or creating, for the sensation or feelings of the emotional reaction to it. There is an interaction between the sound and the cognitive-emotional reaction that triggers our reward system when we listen to a music we like. This is like smoking. It is not the nicotine that some people are addicted to. They are addicted to the pleasant sensation as the result of interaction between chemical in the nervous system and the chemical in the ciggarettes. They are addicted to the feelings they get. Our experience is music is similar in a way that what we like is the feelings we get as the result of interaction between our nervous system and the sound that we hear.

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Forrest

A tree fall into a forrest, if there is no one to hear a sound, does it make a sound?

reality is logically inferred with or without perception
abstract imagination is inferrence
of unknown based on the known
we don't know either one of the sound with or without the hearing
mind is nothing but logical infference
and played like drama
and it s called world and life

what do I think about this? What does others think about this?

everything is good enough and why bother
nothing is important
it's all good
not my problem
observe to recover?
training for the mind?

I just realize my passive nature
my blindspot all my life
how I just take whatever come my way
and adjust myself to environment
change myself to please others
huge "self" to manipulate
and process and try to understand
with no defense and no participation
no interaction before processing
external locus of control
is helpless and accept things as they are
play victim stance
not fighting and try to please others
making self feels better by produce own pleasure
or avoid negative situation and manipulate others to be happy
afraid to make ripples or to take risks
just being passive and take whatever is given
not accepting self in order to accept others
sacrificing self for others
sacrificing self to be safe and to be loved


Thursday, July 25, 2013

whiteboard 7/26/13

THE WORLD DOES NOT NEED TO BE SOLVED
THE WORLD IS PERFECT AND ALWAYS IS
LIKE A CHILD WHO COMPLAIN ABOUT THE FAMILY BECAUSE HE DOES NOT YET UNDERSTAND
AND GROWS UP TO APPRECIATE THE BEAUTY AND WISDOM OF THE FAMILY AS HE GETS OLDER THAT THE BEAUTY AND WISDOM OF THE FAMILY IS GREATER THAN HE IS.

THE WORLD IS ALWAYS PERFECT
OUR THOUGHT AND EXPECTATION IS THE ONE NEEDS TO ADJUST TO IT

STRESS LIKE THOUGHT IS EMPTY ENERGY (PSYCHOLOGICAL)
BUT IT TRIGGERS EMOTION FOR ACTION, BUT THERE IS NO ACTION
IT STILL DEMAND REPLACEMENT --> OBESITY

FALSE THOUGHT - DUKKA
RIGHT THOUGHT - SUKA
SUKA ADALAH FAKTOR PENUNGGANG
LEAVING FALSE THOUGHT, RIGHT THOUGHT APPEAR

LEPAS GAS
PENGALAMAN BATIN

KARMA PASSIVE - BACKGROUND
PIKIRAN EMOSI ADALAH KERETA GANDENG

MEMORY - CONSCIOUS COMPETENCE (PRIDE) AND INCOMPETENCE (SUFFERING)

INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING ABOUT WORD THAT ONLY HAS 1 MEANING, WE SHOULD SEE THE CONTEXT AND SEE THE WAY IT IS.
INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING ABOUT THE WORLD THAT DOESN'T FIT OUR DESCRIPTION, WE SHOULD SEE THE WAY IT IS AND USE NO DESCRIPTION

CRY NOW THAT YOU DON'T CRY LATER
FIGHT NOW THAT YOU DON'T FIGHT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE (FOR VICTIM)

DESCRIPTION OF AN OBJECT IS AN INTENTIONAL MEANING
THE OBJECT IS THE EXTENTIONAL MEANING
DOES THE INTENTIONAL MEANING MATCH THE EXTENTIONAL MEANING?
DOES THE DESCRIPTION PASS THE REALITY TEST?

trigger

I like to read, to watch, to think about something, to fantasize and to talk about something
what do they have in common? they are object and content and they have meaning
they trigger sense of pleasure
they take me away from sensory direct experience

discipline and acceptance is opposite
like acceptance and not acceptance
we tend to accept the health, non problematic
and not to accept non healthy and problematic
it's a preference
discipline is to make it happen
discipline is not natural
natural discipline is natural behavior
discipline often times rigid social control

anxiety or pain, such as in xtreme activities or self harm behavior, trigger natural "painkiller"
this is why we seek anxiety and sabotage our life to manipulate our body to produce this pleasure.
it is a compulsion
we seek misery for the reward
we raise the ante from time to time
we can't sleep without the pleasure and to produce the pleasure we must feel the pain first.


Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Discipline

Is discipline the opposite of acceptance? criticism and order as the opposite of letting?

there is no argument of reports
we argue inference and especially fight judgements

forgiving mistakes of others and self

addiction to external mind objects for pleasure and anxiety

Sunday, July 21, 2013

love


Love is passive reciprocical reaction (it doesn't have to be social, but it is reciprocial). It is not about "to love" but as "being loved". Social love occurs in interpersonal environment where reciprocal can happens in interpersonal but also intrapersonal environment. (I may agree with you here that love may have no external object, but love always have objects. This is what I mean by non preferential/partial in earlier post.). I will argue that all experience have a reciprocial relationship between the behavior, mental, and feelings. This reciprocial relationship makes an experience. We have an experience and we tell a quality of the experience with feelings, a "sense of love". Like you said earlier when I ask you how you tell if you are in oneness, you feel it all over your body. That's called feelings.

Feelings is the most important among the three (Suffering is nothing but feelings. Enlightenment is the absence of afflictive emotions or sufferings like darkness is the absence of light. There is no such thing as darkness like there is no such thing as suffering). This feeling is what "love" people talk about. It's the sense of love we have, positive or negative.  The problem with attachment based love is the presence of negative/afflictive emotion/feeling that comes when the object of our love leaves or gives the love to another, the thorns of the roses.

This is the most important part. Feelings is reactive. It tells us not how much we love but how much we are loved. The so called "social needs" is our needs of being loved, accepted, and approved. Afflictive social emotions, such as grief, tells us about the loss of love coming our way. Jealousy tells us about missing the love that goes somewhere else. The world focuses on the active loving of others, but that's not what we need. Like we must be fed with food, we must be loved first. Our feelings tells us how much love we receive. For example, in romantic love, I like a person. During courting, my sense of love will go up and down based on how much she likes me. All my feeling care about is not how I love, but how much I was loved/she loved me. If all I care about is "I like her", my feelings will not go "roller coaster" on me.

WHat's the problem with conditioned attachment based love? Our sense of love depended on/conditioned on external objects of our love that may change mind, that may dissapear, that we have no control over. Afflictive emotions only shows up when we don't get what we need, just like hunger.
In conditioned attachment based love, there is dissapointment because our sense of love depended on external locus of control. We feel happy when they care and we don't when they don't.

Due to the frustration of the conditioned attachment based love or for some people who got hurt or deprived of their love needs, they say there must be other ways. They go inside. Remember the passivity, it is not about loving the self, that would be narcissistic. The narcissist who love the self has the same problems with people who has compulsion in loving others, they just turn it to himself. They are denying their needs to be loved or experiencing past severe neglect of being loved, that they must do it themselves to love themselves.
It is about "being loved by the self". This takes a high level of vulnerability/intimacy and level of trust with oneself that it's spiritual. It takes high level of openmindedness to listen to oneself. The language people use usually "be with oneself". There is sense of freedom just to be without any conditions and I have all I need to be happy. Some people even reach ecstassy from the joy that they are free. At this level, we are speaking about mystical experience where words sound wierd trying to explain it. Some people talk about "making love to God", "bride/groom with the beloved". There is a high level of intoxication feeling present from the sense of love but without dissapointments. At this level, language breaks down because it is not needed.


Monday, July 15, 2013

Meditation and Sleeping

Is fall into meditation like falling asleep?
meditation is not sleeping
during sleep, bodies sleep and only higher mind awake
when meditate, bodies and lower mind awake and higher mind asleep
when awake, they all awake
but how we enter into it
the sleepiness trance

Saturday, July 13, 2013

Einstein

Professor : You are a Christian, aren’t you, son ?

Student : Yes, sir.

Professor: So, you believe in GOD ?

Student : Absolutely, sir.

Professor : Is GOD good ?

Student : Sure.

Professor: Is GOD all powerful ?

Student : Yes.

Professor: My brother died of cancer even though he prayed to GOD to heal him. Most of us would attempt to help others who are ill. But GOD didn’t. How is this GOD good then? Hmm?

(Student was silent.)

Professor: You can’t answer, can you ? Let’s start again, young fella. Is GOD good?

Student : Yes.

Professor: Is satan good ?

Student : No.

Professor: Where does satan come from ?

Student : From … GOD …

Professor: That’s right. Tell me son, is there evil in this world?

Student : Yes.

Professor: Evil is everywhere, isn’t it ? And GOD did make everything. Correct?

Student : Yes.

Professor: So who created evil ?

(Student did not answer.)

Professor: Is there sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things exist in the world, don’t they?

Student : Yes, sir.

Professor: So, who created them ?

(Student had no answer.)

Professor: Science says you have 5 Senses you use to identify and observe the world around you. Tell me, son, have you ever seen GOD?

Student : No, sir.

Professor: Tell us if you have ever heard your GOD?

Student : No , sir.

Professor: Have you ever felt your GOD, tasted your GOD, smelt your GOD? Have you ever had any sensory perception of GOD for that matter?

Student : No, sir. I’m afraid I haven’t.

Professor: Yet you still believe in Him?

Student : Yes.

Professor : According to Empirical, Testable, Demonstrable Protocol, Science says your GOD doesn’t exist. What do you say to that, son?

Student : Nothing. I only have my faith.

Professor: Yes, faith. And that is the problem Science has.

Student : Professor, is there such a thing as heat?

Professor: Yes.

Student : And is there such a thing as cold?

Professor: Yes.

Student : No, sir. There isn’t.

(The lecture theater became very quiet with this turn of events.)

Student : Sir, you can have lots of heat, even more heat, superheat, mega heat, white heat, a little heat or no heat. But we don’t have anything called cold. We can hit 458 degrees below zero which is no heat, but we can’t go any further after that. There is no such thing as cold. Cold is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We cannot measure cold. Heat is energy. Cold is not the opposite of heat, sir, just the absence of it.

(There was pin-drop silence in the lecture theater.)

Student : What about darkness, Professor? Is there such a thing as darkness?

Professor: Yes. What is night if there isn’t darkness?

Student : You’re wrong again, sir. Darkness is the absence of something. You can have low light, normal light, bright light, flashing light. But if you have no light constantly, you have nothing and its called darkness, isn’t it? In reality, darkness isn’t. If it is, well you would be able to make darkness darker, wouldn’t you?

Professor: So what is the point you are making, young man ?

Student : Sir, my point is your philosophical premise is flawed.

Professor: Flawed ? Can you explain how?

Student : Sir, you are working on the premise of duality. You argue there is life and then there is death, a good GOD and a bad GOD. You are viewing the concept of GOD as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, Science can’t even explain a thought. It uses electricity and magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either one. To view death as the opposite of life is to be ignorant of the fact that death cannot exist as a substantive thing.

Death is not the opposite of life: just the absence of it. Now tell me, Professor, do you teach your students that they evolved from a monkey?

Professor: If you are referring to the natural evolutionary process, yes, of course, I do.

Student : Have you ever observed evolution with your own eyes, sir?

(The Professor shook his head with a smile, beginning to realize where the argument was going.)

Student : Since no one has ever observed the process of evolution at work and cannot even prove that this process is an on-going endeavor. Are you not teaching your opinion, sir? Are you not a scientist but a preacher?

(The class was in uproar.)

Student : Is there anyone in the class who has ever seen the Professor’s brain?

(The class broke out into laughter. )

Student : Is there anyone here who has ever heard the Professor’s brain, felt it, touched or smelt it? No one appears to have done so. So, according to the established Rules of Empirical, Stable, Demonstrable Protocol, Science says that you have no brain, sir. With all due respect, sir, how do we then trust your lectures, sir?

(The room was silent. The Professor stared at the student, his face unfathomable.)

Professor: I guess you’ll have to take them on faith, son.

Student : That is it sir … Exactly ! The link between man & GOD is FAITH. That is all that keeps things alive and moving.

P.S.

I believe you have enjoyed the conversation. And if so, you’ll probably want your friends / colleagues to enjoy the same, won’t you?

Forward this to increase their knowledge … or FAITH.

By the way, that student was EINSTEIN.

Friday, July 12, 2013

Reaction

observe the reaction to anything
what we learn from the world
about negative values of things
they tell us what is good as bad
based on what people fear and their own wrong messages

people don't speak directly
there is subliminal judgement below
two values or multi values?
false inference.

observe how i act to others
the negative reaction based on my own fear and wrong messages

how many times do we tell others what they do is wrong
based on social convention or our self righteousness or our co dependent needs
how many times we agree when people tell us we are wrong
based on the same things

I correct and critisize people
people correct and critisize me
one is outward, one is inward (superego)
self controlled by many, self try to control many...

we first derive pleasure from them before being controlled by them.

MIND IS OUR REACTION

FROM COMMUNICATION MODEL, WE DECODE OUR ENVIRONMENT OR SPEECH
1. EMOTIONAL REACTION - JUDGEMENTAL, TWO VALUES, MULTI VALUES
2. COGNITIVE REACTION - PERCEPTIONAL/OBJECTIVE PHILOSOPHICAL REACTION

FEEDBACK:
1. EMOTIONAL FEEDBACK REACTION - POSITION, ARGUMENTATIVE STYLE
2. COGNITIVE REACTION

EMOTIONAL VALUE JUDGEMENT ALWAYS COME FIRST BEFORE THE PREMISE
"WANT", "DON'T WANT" IS BASIC LANGUAGE



Compulsiveness

I used to think that compulsiveness is only about feelings
to be busy, always doing something, thinking about something
looking up internet, facebook, linked in,
as long as there is always SOMETHING
compulsiveness to activities and objects
like children must have tv and get bored if they don't
need constant visual stimulation
need constant cognitive stimulation
social stimulation
relates to the needs?
the opposite of compulsiveness is boredom, craving
always needs objects to play with
like spoiled children who gets bored easily
compulsiveness to pleasure
innate pleasure rather than learned pleasure
innate is something that a person naturally likes
learned is someting a person must learn to like
why not? to go seek one's pleasure
to seek one's own self importance instead of other's self importance
the world was wrong
there is no problem with compulsiveness
only when we worry about it, that's the problem
our reaction to it...

It is proggressive
the stimulation gets stronger and stronger to trigger pleasure
as the mind gets used to it and the novelty wear off
we seek stronger more extreme stimulation
louder brighter sharper stronger stimulation just to feel it
that requires more energy to produce
more depression and strong anxiety
however, more capability for stronger trance

Thursday, July 11, 2013

happiness

Things get sick, old, and die
don't derive happiness from them
derive happiness from freedom

not only self that is important, nothing is important
not only self important, but otherself important
how they like to have me make them important
this is freedom

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Addiction

Emotionally addicted to something
healthy or unhealthy
temporary or permanent
heal or hurt
meeting needs or sacrificing needs

addiction treatment teach a person skills to deal with distraction or temptation
teach a person skills to deal with risks
to manage risks

Monday, July 8, 2013

needs

we try to meet needs: physical, safety, social
we will meet the needs based on importance and sabotage the less important needs
like Borderline sabotage social needs for safety needs

Raw unprocessed emotion is a raw nerve
like a borderline wall of nerve when hit
what is emotion but a nerve stimulation?

Mind focus

my mind is scattered and has no energy
put the mind in the now, in an object
it is not simply to think about the object, to imagine the object
dynamically
but to put statically our mind to the static object
to be quiet and put in rest
learn to concentrate by focusing on one object
using one sense, any senses will do
to develop the power and stamina
get into trance of freedom
then stay on it...

Saturday, July 6, 2013

Meditation SUnday

Why am I restless?
because the real you doesn't understand
that mind is not real, it's not concrete
you haven't made peace with it
you are afraid to stop moving
suffering should remind you to meditate...

Friday, July 5, 2013

Narcissism

Is Narcissism a Social Needs craving?
social needs traumatic unmet?
that most personalities disorders are social needs related?
and phobias are safety needs craving?

complementary mind

a person is not what he is, what he hides
we don't know this because we got fooled by the act
when we perceive something we like the total idea, total experience
if we hear verbal message, our mind makes up the absent emotional and behavioral message
our mind makes up the absent experience
we actually are influenced more by the emotional and behavioral message
how something is heard or something is seen, not the what
what a person is.
verbal message is important, but the person makes stronger impression
verbal, emotional, behavioral, the person.
infered by the mind than the message itself
we mindread
we make up the emotional, behavioral, the cognitive
even the self itself
we like complete picture and static
this is where the mind comes in
giving us complete picture
triggering emotional reaction to emotional messages
as precursor for actions
like seeing symptoms of tornado and to get out before it hits
it's a gift, it's also a curse
great for survival, bad for "short term" relationship

Nature is "good" when it is seen from a distance
when it is seen for the long term and as a group, not individual

Thursday, July 4, 2013

Peace

I search for original
brutal search for truth
regardless of who says it
or denomination
it doesn't have to have a name
or who it belongs to
truth is like God, it's everywhere and inside everything
at the same time, it's a destination waiting at the end of the journey
it's the most bottom of the ocean and the furthest end of the sky
it's not searching for truth, it's traveling to it
partial elements of truth in everything as clue
until arriving at the end where there is no more false

"making peace" with my experience is impossible
making peace with myself is the only way...

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

health

Health is temporary
like youth and life is temporary
no,
more appropriately, physical health, youth, and life is temporary
it has shorter age span than psychological health, youth, and life
for a person can keep their psychological health, youthfulness, and life until
they walk out of this world.

Attitude is a mood or theme we have about something.

Self

I am not who I say I am
I am not who I think I am
I am who do, talk, and think
I am not the content, an object of my thought
I am the subject who makes the object

A person is not who he say he is
A perseon is not who he thinks he is
A person is not even who I think he is
A person is he who does, talks, and thinks
He is not the content, an object of my or his thought
He is the subject

Only in the presence, he appear
not in absence, only in thought and speech
there is partial truth in thought and speech, but only not much

Monday, July 1, 2013

Human

Human is biologically weaker than animals
when we build anything, we build it to last a long time
like building a house
unlike animals who can live in natural environment
human doesn't do well with change
but we have animal's emotion but a tamed/weak ones
due to development of cognition
well, you win some, you lose some

false sense of self is like inflamation or itchiness
feels good when scratched, but is gonna get worse
it's something we play with by increasing its power
nothing but pretend play in fantasy world
"If I am..., I feel good"
like getting what I like feels pleasurable

Disability

A person is disabled when he is not independent physically or even emotionally
or even financially?
Human life is so competitive and complicated that it is not enough to have biological abilities to survive
there are so many new skills to keep up to compete
It is not enough just to be literate, we must be computer literate now
it is not enough to graduate from high school, we must have college education, even post college education to gain advantage
we must be street smarter, book smarter, people smarter
I feel so handicapped even with all the experience and skills that I have.