in fantasy, I create the fake hero and transfer my negative image into the villain
Attaching myself to the fake hero feels good in destroying the villain
That's what we do in projection
we don't care about what we like about ourselves
but, we focus on what we don't like about ourselves
like a mole on our skins
in social drama, we try to hide it
by wearing clothes that cover it
we ll talk about something else or we talk about others who has the same problems
in an attempt to kill the wound
defense mechanism is a complex that has its own subject and verb
we confuse the subject in our defense mechanism as I
the life outside the defense mechanism is ignored or denied
our "negative" behaviors are outside our perception
they become others'
we recognize the behaviors but we deny it
thus, because we have a hate relationship with it
we hate it when we see it in others
we still can't stand it in ourselves, thus we can't stand it in others
it has not been resolved
it's still a secret but we are still doing it because it still gratify us
on the other hand, we see the negative social effect
so, it's a conflict between individual gratification and social norms
between individual view and social
a person who feels good by offending others is in a bind
on one hand it's his right to feel good but at the same time, others don't like to be violated
because it is still a secret, we notice it in others.
especially, when it has become a secret from ourselves..
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