Obsession and phobia are two identical qualities
overimposing qualities
Obsession, phobia, and amnesia
what is infantile amnesia? there is conversation within'
Johari window: Things that we know (public and private/secret) and things we don't know (bias and amnesia)
Awareness is information or live conversation, the more we talk about the topic, the more aware.
public knowledge, secret, bias, and amnesia.
we sleep and awake is similar regarding our awareness of surrounding, the difference is the INFORMATION/conversation. we see object/others, and imagine self. When we confuse seeing self, we confuse imagining others/objects.
In computer, there is a difference between storage and memory. Memory is only used when working. OUR MIND IS STORAGE and not memory. When we confuse storage and memory, it's like working on all programs at the same time.
SINCE OUR MIND IS STORAGE OF RULES OR DISPOSITION, LEAVE THEM ALONE. ONLY USE WHAT PRESENTLY NEEDED AND LEAVE THE REST ALONE.
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Monday, February 27, 2012
direct experience
There is no suffering in direct experience
Not in mental experience.
The anticipation is worse than the real thing
We create mental experience to avoid dealing directly with the real things, to delay reaction, to polish it
But, later, we also get caught in the nightmare, thinking that it's the real world
Our negative emotions help create the mental world to avoid the feeling again
by lying, conning, and making up the artificial world to neutralize our self
The mental world is nothing but artificial opposite of the real world
The language and mind is full of idea-l
Their function is diplomacy, public relation, and damage control
to procrastinate and rationalize
Like the content of speech "do what I say", the content of mind is the opposite of the real behavior
defense mechanism at its best, denial with its rationalization.
Our world is made up of this rationalization when we deny reality
We can even push our mind to grandiose narcissistic level with our behavior becomes more antisocial
The gap is created between dr. jekyll and mr. hyde.
public relations is polishing this world or rationalization
But, the more we rely on our rationalization, the more we get caught in it.
The function of the content of either speech or thought is to complement or cover up something, usually it's positive to complement negative.
We usually advertise to others positively in speech but we see ourselves negatively secretly in mind
Those who see themselves positively in mind can advertise negatively to others.
But, most of the time, the content is not important, because with ideas we can manipulate whatever we want
creating whatever impression we want and creating effect that we want.
We are creating symbols and reacting to symbols for the impression and effects
Like wearing brand name shirts or shirts with "USA or Paris" on it to create impression and effects
we give symbols impression and effects.
We can not cheat ourselves, but we can cheat others
If we want to cheat ourselves, we have to do it under a flag of professionalism
So, our mental world is full of impression and effect that we wants and doesn't want
we suffer if we get the effect that we doesn't want, we have impression that we doesn't like
and we don't have impression and effects that we want.
WE ARE SURROUNDED BY SEMANTIC ENVIRONMENT, EITHER IN SPEECH OR IN MIND
COMBINATION OF IMAGE AND WORDS THAT WE OURSELVES CREATE THE MEANING OR EFFECT. WE MAKE THEM WORK BY IDENTIFYING WITH THEM.
THIS SEMANTIC ENVIRONMENT HAS LITTLE TO DO WITH THE REAL ENVIRONMENT IT TRIES TO DESCRIBE. THE NEWS, MOVIE, ETC IS AN OPINION OF ONE PERSON.
SO, WE REACT TO OTHERS OPINION AND WE REACT TO OUR OWN OPINION TO THOSE OPINIONS.
WE REMEMBER OUR REACTION TO OUR OPINION THAN OUR OPINION ITSELF. WE REMEMBER OUR OPINION THAN OTHERS' OPINION. LIKE WHEN WE GET PUNISHED, WE REMEMBER OUR NEGATIVE FEELING OR WHAT WE THINK THAN THE PUNISHMENT ITSELF.
Not in mental experience.
The anticipation is worse than the real thing
We create mental experience to avoid dealing directly with the real things, to delay reaction, to polish it
But, later, we also get caught in the nightmare, thinking that it's the real world
Our negative emotions help create the mental world to avoid the feeling again
by lying, conning, and making up the artificial world to neutralize our self
The mental world is nothing but artificial opposite of the real world
The language and mind is full of idea-l
Their function is diplomacy, public relation, and damage control
to procrastinate and rationalize
Like the content of speech "do what I say", the content of mind is the opposite of the real behavior
defense mechanism at its best, denial with its rationalization.
Our world is made up of this rationalization when we deny reality
We can even push our mind to grandiose narcissistic level with our behavior becomes more antisocial
The gap is created between dr. jekyll and mr. hyde.
public relations is polishing this world or rationalization
But, the more we rely on our rationalization, the more we get caught in it.
The function of the content of either speech or thought is to complement or cover up something, usually it's positive to complement negative.
We usually advertise to others positively in speech but we see ourselves negatively secretly in mind
Those who see themselves positively in mind can advertise negatively to others.
But, most of the time, the content is not important, because with ideas we can manipulate whatever we want
creating whatever impression we want and creating effect that we want.
We are creating symbols and reacting to symbols for the impression and effects
Like wearing brand name shirts or shirts with "USA or Paris" on it to create impression and effects
we give symbols impression and effects.
We can not cheat ourselves, but we can cheat others
If we want to cheat ourselves, we have to do it under a flag of professionalism
So, our mental world is full of impression and effect that we wants and doesn't want
we suffer if we get the effect that we doesn't want, we have impression that we doesn't like
and we don't have impression and effects that we want.
WE ARE SURROUNDED BY SEMANTIC ENVIRONMENT, EITHER IN SPEECH OR IN MIND
COMBINATION OF IMAGE AND WORDS THAT WE OURSELVES CREATE THE MEANING OR EFFECT. WE MAKE THEM WORK BY IDENTIFYING WITH THEM.
THIS SEMANTIC ENVIRONMENT HAS LITTLE TO DO WITH THE REAL ENVIRONMENT IT TRIES TO DESCRIBE. THE NEWS, MOVIE, ETC IS AN OPINION OF ONE PERSON.
SO, WE REACT TO OTHERS OPINION AND WE REACT TO OUR OWN OPINION TO THOSE OPINIONS.
WE REMEMBER OUR REACTION TO OUR OPINION THAN OUR OPINION ITSELF. WE REMEMBER OUR OPINION THAN OTHERS' OPINION. LIKE WHEN WE GET PUNISHED, WE REMEMBER OUR NEGATIVE FEELING OR WHAT WE THINK THAN THE PUNISHMENT ITSELF.
Saturday, February 25, 2012
Fear
When there is guilt, shame, fear, there is defense
when there is defense there is offense
defense creates front or the "joneses"
offense creates havoc
dysfunctional is pretend to be normal.
honesty and fear is underrated due to our habit of defense and ignorance
we dont know that we are lying and we live in our defense
"do what I say not as I do" = "I say" represent the ideal self, "i do" represent the real self.
"I say" is artificial directive sentence uttered by the non-doer
for example, a smoker who told others not to smoke
"I say" is a socially desirable expectation we expect from others to please us
Like we teach a child not to do something that we do
The child will learn what we do more than what we say
he will have discrapency between what we do and what we say
when we do it, it does not annoy us, but when others do it, it annoy us
like we don't tickle ourselves? or because we surpress our unpleasent self
like we like to control others but we don't like to be controlled by others
but we don't know that we are controlling others
so, basically, we don't like to be controlled by others, but since we surpress part of our selves, unknowingly, that's why we control others.
If we are aware of controlling others, we may empathize and stop it
so we don't realize what we do, we realize what we think and what people do.
We should realize what we do not what we think or say and not what people do, but what they may think and feel.
so, when we ask people to do what we say, we are asking ourselves to do it but we are in denial and we project it to others. the more a person is out of control and try to control himself, he will try to control others more.
the less we do the more we talk
we talk to complement or cover up what we can't do
since we reject ourselves, we reject those qualities in others too and ask them to change
since we are afraid and hate some qualities in our selves, we hate those qualities in others too.
when they come out, we don't see it or refuse to see it
but when others do it, we hate it and condemn it
when we ask people to do what we say, we are asking for pleasing behavior and to stop annoying behaviors
why is it people who doesn't like to be annoyed annoy others with the same behaviors?
why is it people who like to be pleased doesn't please others with the same behaviors?
It s like I give people a present A but i don't like receiving the present A.
or, I like receiving present B but I don't like giving the present B to people.
do i annoy people to punish others because I know that people annoy me to punish me? ngambek
we can punish others but we don't like to be punished. we like to be pleased but we don't like to please others.
it is a one way street. so we have a punisher and a pleaser. distress signal and attraction signal.
So it's our weapon, punisher and pleaser, but we don't like others to use those weapon on us.
The talker or saying is usually less doer and higher maintainance because he knows and does less
He has fear and insecurity because he has to depend on the doer, that's why he has to show his power and demand power to complement or cover up his lack of power and competence. They live in anxiety because he has to control others all the time and don't know it. They are powerless and incompetent. Their power is only a face to scare others. An angry cat is an afraid cat.
when there is defense there is offense
defense creates front or the "joneses"
offense creates havoc
dysfunctional is pretend to be normal.
honesty and fear is underrated due to our habit of defense and ignorance
we dont know that we are lying and we live in our defense
"do what I say not as I do" = "I say" represent the ideal self, "i do" represent the real self.
"I say" is artificial directive sentence uttered by the non-doer
for example, a smoker who told others not to smoke
"I say" is a socially desirable expectation we expect from others to please us
Like we teach a child not to do something that we do
The child will learn what we do more than what we say
he will have discrapency between what we do and what we say
when we do it, it does not annoy us, but when others do it, it annoy us
like we don't tickle ourselves? or because we surpress our unpleasent self
like we like to control others but we don't like to be controlled by others
but we don't know that we are controlling others
so, basically, we don't like to be controlled by others, but since we surpress part of our selves, unknowingly, that's why we control others.
If we are aware of controlling others, we may empathize and stop it
so we don't realize what we do, we realize what we think and what people do.
We should realize what we do not what we think or say and not what people do, but what they may think and feel.
so, when we ask people to do what we say, we are asking ourselves to do it but we are in denial and we project it to others. the more a person is out of control and try to control himself, he will try to control others more.
the less we do the more we talk
we talk to complement or cover up what we can't do
since we reject ourselves, we reject those qualities in others too and ask them to change
since we are afraid and hate some qualities in our selves, we hate those qualities in others too.
when they come out, we don't see it or refuse to see it
but when others do it, we hate it and condemn it
when we ask people to do what we say, we are asking for pleasing behavior and to stop annoying behaviors
why is it people who doesn't like to be annoyed annoy others with the same behaviors?
why is it people who like to be pleased doesn't please others with the same behaviors?
It s like I give people a present A but i don't like receiving the present A.
or, I like receiving present B but I don't like giving the present B to people.
do i annoy people to punish others because I know that people annoy me to punish me? ngambek
we can punish others but we don't like to be punished. we like to be pleased but we don't like to please others.
it is a one way street. so we have a punisher and a pleaser. distress signal and attraction signal.
So it's our weapon, punisher and pleaser, but we don't like others to use those weapon on us.
The talker or saying is usually less doer and higher maintainance because he knows and does less
He has fear and insecurity because he has to depend on the doer, that's why he has to show his power and demand power to complement or cover up his lack of power and competence. They live in anxiety because he has to control others all the time and don't know it. They are powerless and incompetent. Their power is only a face to scare others. An angry cat is an afraid cat.
Friday, February 24, 2012
Emotion
We communicate our emotion.
We started by communicating and we still are communicating physically, chemically, biologically, eventually using voice, emotionally, and mentally.
Emotional communication is communication with the outside world by triggering physiological reaction
it's limbic and automatic, we can only control it after it happens
Per-linguistically, we still communicate physically, chemically, biologically, using voice, and emotionally
Lizzard's behavior is not acceptable in society so we use words to hide it (diplomatic)
so, an effective communication is kinestetic and physical ( or chemical, biological, voice, emotional)
mental communication is abstract communication
like picture is more than a thousand words, words can't even paint a picture
picture can't ever paint moving picture
moving picture can't even paint reality
The physiological reaction could be sad, mad, fear, happy, etc that lead to cry, threat, act violent, smile, etc.
Inside our body, we still communicate physically, chemically, and biologically, even with our environment. However, in social environment, we communicate through air (voice) auditorally through voice and visually through body language or gesture (emotion).
we are emotional being, we are mentally emotional being. Without mental, we are animal. without emotion, we are robot. we sacrifice our emotion with the development of mental. If we have strong emotion with mental ability, we are like "the rise of the ape". our emotion keep us grounded and trustworthy as social members. Since we have learn to con others through words but also gesture/act, emotion work very hard to keep us honest, guilt or shame.
Our lymbic system manage our physiological reaction and can be triggered by sensory or imagination.
Do animal has a mental "world"? It probably does has a much simpler world for an animal can be conditioned to remember signals or icons. Since our emotion react to both sensory information and cognitive information, human react mostly to cognitive information or the "world". Even though we physically live on earth, we mostly live in our "world". This world is our disposition of phenomena with names. We have to make a MENTAL NOTES about our experience to experience it. The MENTAL NOTES IS what we remember. We makes MENTAL NOTES for all experience that we see, hear, touch, etc, and thinking about our past and future. Due to ignorance, just like we thought the content of the conversation is the most important, we also think that the content of the mind which is nothing but the MENTAL NOTES is real. This is what it means by WE CREATE OUR REALITY. We create and remember only MENTAL NOTES and we react to it. In the present, direct experience doesn't go through this mental notes. Our emotion is originally created for this.
If I remember going to the store yesterday, i had to make MENTAL NOTES yesterday or told myself that i went to the store. "I, store, driving, car". I then disposed those phenomena into memory. I don't actually observed my body going to the store or driving because I live in my mind. I am still not paying attention to what my body is doing but I know that I am typing and sitting down because my MENTAL NOTES told me.
Since emotion react to imagination, our emotion spend most of their time reacting to this MENTAL NOTES.
EMOTIONAL SYSTEM CAN PROVIDE EARLY WARNING SIGNS BEFORE PHYSICAL, CHEMICAL, AND BIOLOGICAL OR EVEN VOICE COMMUNICATION. THE MENTAL SYSTEM IS NOTHING BUT DIGITAL EARLY WARNING SIGNS FOR ABOVE COMMUNICATION.
EMOTION IS A PRE MOTION, TO PREPARE ACTION, TO GET READY FOR ACTION.
We started by communicating and we still are communicating physically, chemically, biologically, eventually using voice, emotionally, and mentally.
Emotional communication is communication with the outside world by triggering physiological reaction
it's limbic and automatic, we can only control it after it happens
Per-linguistically, we still communicate physically, chemically, biologically, using voice, and emotionally
Lizzard's behavior is not acceptable in society so we use words to hide it (diplomatic)
so, an effective communication is kinestetic and physical ( or chemical, biological, voice, emotional)
mental communication is abstract communication
like picture is more than a thousand words, words can't even paint a picture
picture can't ever paint moving picture
moving picture can't even paint reality
The physiological reaction could be sad, mad, fear, happy, etc that lead to cry, threat, act violent, smile, etc.
Inside our body, we still communicate physically, chemically, and biologically, even with our environment. However, in social environment, we communicate through air (voice) auditorally through voice and visually through body language or gesture (emotion).
we are emotional being, we are mentally emotional being. Without mental, we are animal. without emotion, we are robot. we sacrifice our emotion with the development of mental. If we have strong emotion with mental ability, we are like "the rise of the ape". our emotion keep us grounded and trustworthy as social members. Since we have learn to con others through words but also gesture/act, emotion work very hard to keep us honest, guilt or shame.
Our lymbic system manage our physiological reaction and can be triggered by sensory or imagination.
Do animal has a mental "world"? It probably does has a much simpler world for an animal can be conditioned to remember signals or icons. Since our emotion react to both sensory information and cognitive information, human react mostly to cognitive information or the "world". Even though we physically live on earth, we mostly live in our "world". This world is our disposition of phenomena with names. We have to make a MENTAL NOTES about our experience to experience it. The MENTAL NOTES IS what we remember. We makes MENTAL NOTES for all experience that we see, hear, touch, etc, and thinking about our past and future. Due to ignorance, just like we thought the content of the conversation is the most important, we also think that the content of the mind which is nothing but the MENTAL NOTES is real. This is what it means by WE CREATE OUR REALITY. We create and remember only MENTAL NOTES and we react to it. In the present, direct experience doesn't go through this mental notes. Our emotion is originally created for this.
If I remember going to the store yesterday, i had to make MENTAL NOTES yesterday or told myself that i went to the store. "I, store, driving, car". I then disposed those phenomena into memory. I don't actually observed my body going to the store or driving because I live in my mind. I am still not paying attention to what my body is doing but I know that I am typing and sitting down because my MENTAL NOTES told me.
Since emotion react to imagination, our emotion spend most of their time reacting to this MENTAL NOTES.
EMOTIONAL SYSTEM CAN PROVIDE EARLY WARNING SIGNS BEFORE PHYSICAL, CHEMICAL, AND BIOLOGICAL OR EVEN VOICE COMMUNICATION. THE MENTAL SYSTEM IS NOTHING BUT DIGITAL EARLY WARNING SIGNS FOR ABOVE COMMUNICATION.
EMOTION IS A PRE MOTION, TO PREPARE ACTION, TO GET READY FOR ACTION.
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Communication
Human is lizzard, communicate through emotions.
communication starts from physical, chemical eventually biological of what we call emotional
before it becomes mental or linguistic
mental or linguistic communication starts from kinestetis (concrete), icon, and eventually symbols (abstract)
However, we are still communicate emotionally
mental communication can be used to soften or civilized even to cover up our basic desires
that's what makes us human, the ability to be diplomatic
iconic and symbolic language is based on kinestatic language, such as basic metaphors.
manipulating idea from manipulating objects.
iconic is based on abstraction, similarity, like a house.
iconic is basic relationship between an idea and physical object or sensory object or SIGN
symbolic is more abstract relationship between idea and idea
symbols is always part of set of symbols
III is an icon, 3 is a symbol
6 function of language: emotif, konatif (directive), fatif (listening), referential (external meaning), puitis (emotional konotation), and metalinguistic (language about language).
words have power as handle for the real objects.
Makna yang membingungkan: we are happy when we receive clear meaning rather than being manipulated, untrustworthy. use kinestetic language, even an unhappy news is received openly when it is delivered clearly.
image require technology. information = language + image
animal can send and receive language/words, but animal can receive image but can not send image (one way).
visual communication through body language and gesture + make up + artifacts.
Image = writing + art --> multimedia
communication starts from physical, chemical eventually biological of what we call emotional
before it becomes mental or linguistic
mental or linguistic communication starts from kinestetis (concrete), icon, and eventually symbols (abstract)
However, we are still communicate emotionally
mental communication can be used to soften or civilized even to cover up our basic desires
that's what makes us human, the ability to be diplomatic
iconic and symbolic language is based on kinestatic language, such as basic metaphors.
manipulating idea from manipulating objects.
iconic is based on abstraction, similarity, like a house.
iconic is basic relationship between an idea and physical object or sensory object or SIGN
symbolic is more abstract relationship between idea and idea
symbols is always part of set of symbols
III is an icon, 3 is a symbol
6 function of language: emotif, konatif (directive), fatif (listening), referential (external meaning), puitis (emotional konotation), and metalinguistic (language about language).
words have power as handle for the real objects.
Makna yang membingungkan: we are happy when we receive clear meaning rather than being manipulated, untrustworthy. use kinestetic language, even an unhappy news is received openly when it is delivered clearly.
image require technology. information = language + image
animal can send and receive language/words, but animal can receive image but can not send image (one way).
visual communication through body language and gesture + make up + artifacts.
Image = writing + art --> multimedia
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
Brand
Is God or religions brand or symbol that promise piety or morality or enlightenment or virtue?
Sunday, February 19, 2012
memory
I lost my wallet yesterday.
Even though it's inside the bag, I had no re-collection of putting it there
It again shows that we have to bring up to our mind what we will remember
We have to "create the picture", "tell ourselves" or "create our memory" or even "create our perception"
It's not fully delusional either, it's a combination of sensory and perception
However, we don't remember what we see or sense , what we remember is what they mean to us or WHAT THEY ARE.
That's mostly what our WORLD or LIFE is, the picture we create in our mind.
Mostly the ABSENT events or objects or non objects.
THEY ARE ILLUSIONS....
WHAT ABOUT TRAUMATIC MEMORY?
ANXIETY REMEMBER EVENTS OR ANXIETY CREATE EVENTS IN MIND
LIKE A MAGIC SHOW WHERE WE CREATE THE STORY, TOP BOTTOM AND BOTTOM UP PROCESSING.
VISUAL HELPED BALANCE
Even though it's inside the bag, I had no re-collection of putting it there
It again shows that we have to bring up to our mind what we will remember
We have to "create the picture", "tell ourselves" or "create our memory" or even "create our perception"
It's not fully delusional either, it's a combination of sensory and perception
However, we don't remember what we see or sense , what we remember is what they mean to us or WHAT THEY ARE.
That's mostly what our WORLD or LIFE is, the picture we create in our mind.
Mostly the ABSENT events or objects or non objects.
THEY ARE ILLUSIONS....
WHAT ABOUT TRAUMATIC MEMORY?
ANXIETY REMEMBER EVENTS OR ANXIETY CREATE EVENTS IN MIND
LIKE A MAGIC SHOW WHERE WE CREATE THE STORY, TOP BOTTOM AND BOTTOM UP PROCESSING.
VISUAL HELPED BALANCE
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