it takes one to know one

it is said that we don't like qualities in others that we don't like in ourselves
we deny what we hate in ourselves
we hate qualities in others that we deny in ourselves
in a way, we deny the quality in others too
doing it and looking at it from outside gives different view
while it may give pleasure doing it, it looks ugly from the outside
what looks good from the outside may feel awful
if I hate cheaters, does it mean that I myself is a cheater that I react to so much
my reaction to cheaters are my guilt toward the cheater in me?
blaming is the external guilt of blaming onself

the internal view is the feeling, the external view is social view
how does it effect the social group, other people
it's what mental is
thinking too much is overactive social activity
thinking about others more than self
sacrificing oneself
the external view is the social principle, cultural expectations
the internal is the personal
the external is the passive karma, the internal is the more active

while we can pursue pleasure in our own way, we also must follow social principle that we don't hurt others
at the same time, don't let the social principles handcuff us and make us feel guilty to do what we do
sometimes, the social is right, sometimes the personal
what is pleasant may not be good, what is not pleasant may not be bad
but at the same time, sometimes, it is an overreaction and was blown out of proportion
this is the conflict of emotion and mental, personal and social
there is one that is pleasant and good because it is beyond emotion and mental
it is beyond good and bad, and pain and pleasure