Psychology of failure

Everyone has a dark side
the question is how dark is a person's dark side
failure is learned, just like hopelessness and helplessness is learned
nobody is born a loser but some learn to attract a loss
and their whole life will be spent in trying to avoid the loss

a person who has learned to lose or fail
is more sensitive to the failure
like a driver who focus on what to avoid rather than where he should turn
like a person who lives in the dark is more comfortable with the darkness
or a croach is more comfortable in a dirty place
or an abused is more comfortable in an abusive environment
it's not that they choose to lose, it is more that they can't escape it
their mind is still dealing with unfinished business
eventually they make it their home
like people who live in the street

they are more resistant to learn or to empathize with others
they have low readiness to live
they spend more time doing soothing behavior
to medicate their lack of calmness
they are like emotionally disabled
who requires special management to live

we are not learning to be a loser, we are learning to be A VICTIM