PHYSICAL AND MENTAL SELF, SEX AND GENDER

TO SEE A MENTAL SELF, USE AN EXTREME CASE OF DIFFERENT PHYSICAL AND MENTAL SELF
A WOMAN WHO THINK THAT HE IS A MAN
AN ASIAN WHO THINK THAT HE IS AN AMERICAN

THE FIRST PERSON IS BIOLOGICAL OR NATURE, THE SECOND IS CULTURAL OR NURTURED. THIS COULD BE GENDER, RACIAL IDENTITY

LIKE A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A MAN AND MALE, A PERSON AND ITS IDENTITY, A PERSON AND SELF. THAT'S WHY WE SOMETIMES SAY JOHN'S PERSON.

AT FIRST , WE COMPARE THE SELF TO THE PERSON. BUT THE SELF/IDENTITY BECOME STRONGER THAT WE COMPARE THE PERSON TO THE SELF. BECAUSE WE DEVELOP STRONGER CULTURAL IDENTITY. A PERSON CAN DENY OR CHANGE HIS PERSON TO FIT THE SELF.

WE AND OTHERS CONFUSE THE IDENTITY IN OUR MIND WITH THE PERSON. SOME PEOPLE EVEN CONFUSE A PERSON'S NAME WITH THE PERSON. WHEN WE IDENTIFY WITH THIS SELF, WE ENERGIZE IT TO COME ALIVE.

WE SEE APPEARANCE OF OUR BODY AND GIVE IT A LABEL, THE EXPECTATION OF CONDUCTS IS THE IDENTITY, WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO BE A MAN OR WOMAN, TO BE AN AMERICAN OR ASIAN, TO BE A STUDENT OR PROFESSIONAL, SUCCESSFUL OR FAILURE. WE IDENTIFY WITH A GROUP'S IDENTITY TO GAIN ITS PRIVILAGE, LIKE TO BE A DOCTOR OR LAWYER OR TO GRADUATE FROM COLLEGE OR TO BE WEALTHY, FAMOUS OR POWERFUL. SO, TO COVER UP WITH SYMBOLS ARE DENYING THE REAL SELF.

AN ASIAN WHO GROW UP IN AMERICA ACTS LIKE AN AMERICAN BECAUSE ACTION/BEHAVIOR IS SYMBOLIC. A BOY/MAN LEARN TO ACT LIKE A MAN (MASCULINE) AND TO DENY FEMINIMITY, THIS IS MALE GENDER.

SO OUR SELF IS SOCIAL EXPECTATION OF WHAT WE ARE, SEX RACE AGE SOCIAL CLASS. WE CAN PRETEND TO BE SOCIALLY DESIRABLE LIKE THE EXPECTATIONS AND DENY OUR SELVES.

SELF IS OUR IDEAL SELF AND WE ALWAYS COMPARE OUR PERSON WITH OUR SELF (WHICH IS NOTHING BUT OUR GROUP IDENTITY). IN A WAY, OUR SELF IS OUR PROFESSION AND WE DERIVE SATISFACTION FROM HOW PEOPLE SEE OUR PROFESSION.

IN A WAY, WE ARE THE GROUP WE BELONG TO. COLLEGE GRADUATE, STUDYING ABROAD, ATTRACTIVE, POWERFUL, FAMOUS, WEALTHY, ETC. WE HAVE SOME FAILURES AND ACCOMPLISHMENTS. FAILURE GROUP ARE JOBLESS, NOT POWERFUL, NOT FAMOUS, NOT ATTRACTIVE, ETC.

WE TRY TO FIT SOCIALLY. WE LEARN TO ADOPT SOCIAL DESIRABLE IDENTITY TO BE ACCEPTED BY SOCIETY. WE ADOPT OUR SELF AND MEASURE OUR ACTION WITH THIS IDEAL IDENTITY. RULES ARE ONLY FOR BEHAVIOR. NOT FOR HAPPINESS. WE FEEL ANXIETY/GUILT WHEN NOT MEASURE UP TO THIS IDEAL.

WE HAVE BEEN BRAINWASHED BY IGNORANT OTHERS TO BE SOCIALLY OBEDIENT AND OUR DESIRE TO BE ACCEPTED AND ESTEEMED, TO ATTRACT, TO HAVE EVERYTHING, TO LIVE IN FRIENDLY ENVIRONMENT TO BE SAFE (SOCIAL SAFETY)

COOPERATION ----- TO SURVIVE

TO BE SOCIAL CHAMELEON, LINGUISTICALLY (PUBLIC RELATION) AND ACTION
PHYSICAL MAKE UP

EVEN SYMBOLICALLY, IDENTIFY WITH GROUP SYMBOLISM

SYMBOLIC IDENTIFICATION, IN ACTION WORDS AND IMAGES.
SYMBOLS ARE GROUP SYMBOLS
HAVING A SYMBOL IS LIKE HAVING WHAT THE SYMBOLS REPRESENT
WORDS IMAGES ACTION APPEARANCE