DENIAL OF SELF

DENIAL OF SELF IS A RESULT OF CONFLICT BETWEEN THE OWNED SELF AND SOCIAL SYSTEM.
FIRST, THERE IS TWO DIFFERENT RULES BETWEEN OUR BODY AND THE SOCIAL SYSTEM
THE BODY OR ID WANTS TO MEET ITS NEED, BUT THE PROBLEM IS THAT IT LIVES WITH MILLION OTHER PEOPLE WHO WANTS THE SAME THING.
THIS CREATE INTRASPECIES CONFLICT AND CAN LEAD TO INFERIORITY
SO THE SOCIAL SYSTEM HAS A PRINCIPLE OF HARM AND RECIPROCITY

WHAT A PERSON LIKE AND WHAT SOCIETY LIKE IS DIFFERENT
TO BE ACCEPTED BY A GROUP, WE ARE EXPECTED TO LIKE WHAT SOCIETY LIKE/DESIRE
THIS CREATE SOCIAL DESIRABILITY, RELIGION DESIRABILITY, FAMILY DESIRABILITY, SCHOOL DESIRABILITY, ETC.
THE CONFLICT OF THIS GROUP DESIRABILITY AND SELF LEADS TO DENIAL OF SELF WHEN THE NEED TO BE ACCEPTED BY THE GROUP IS LARGER THAN ACCEPTED BY SELF.

THIS DENIAL LEAD TO HYPOCRISY OR PRETEND LIFE WHERE A PERSON LIVE IN LIE.
HE HAS TO PRETEND AND MAINTAIN IMAGE OR LIE AND IS AFRAID THAT HIS REAL SELF IS CAUGHT OR FOUND.
AFTER A WHILE, A PERSON FORGET HIS REAL SELF AND ADOPT HIS IDEAL SELF AS REAL SELF AND HE IS BUSY PLAYING A ROLE AND GETS TIRED
MEANWHILE, HIS REAL SELF IS BEYOND HIS CONTROL.

HE ALWAYS HAS CONFLICT BETWEEN THIS REAL AND IDEAL SELF. HE HATES HIS REAL SELF MORE AND MORE. HE WILL HURT OTHERS LIKE HOW HE HAS BEEN HURT. LIKE BATMAN WHO USE HIS FEAR AS HIS WEAPON. BUT HE IS NOT AWARE OF HIS REAL SELF WHO HURT OTHERS BECAUSE IT HAS BEEN SURPRESSED. HE WILL COME UP WITH EXCUSE OR BLAME OTHERS FOR MISHAPS. HE HAS TO MAINTAIN PERFECT IMAGE.

THIS DENIAL CAN ALSO LEAD TO OWNERSHIP TO THE IDEAL SELF OR COMFORT ZONE WHERE THE REAL SELF IS OUTSIDE THE COMFORT ZONE. SO THIS OWNERSHIP AND DENIAL GOES HAND IN HAND.