5/31/12

words are absent objects in time and space, promise or desire and goals, or to paint big pictures or map either in space or time.

physical needs are riches, safety needs involves fear and doubt, social needs involved intimacy and acceptance, esteem needs is social status, wealth power and fame, self actualizing involves freedom.

con

con is manipulation of attachment and distress signal
apology is an attachment behavior, abuse is our distress acting out
we act in and out our emotional reaction, and we also speak in and out our emotional reaction
we act in by feeling, act out by behavior, speak in by thought and speak out by speech


afflictive emotion is our emotional reaction, like our food
our reaction is fruit or consequence of our behavior
we are continuously shaping our future by shaping our consequences
we are living off consequences of our past behaviors.

PUBLIC PERSONA

WE HAVE PRIVATE SELF AND PUBLIC PERSONA
PRIVATE SELF IS OUR SECRET SELF THAT WE CREATE FROM EXPERIENCE
PUBLIC PERSONA IS A DECEPTIVE SELF-LIKE PERSONA WE PORTRAY TO NAVIGATE SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT
PRIVATE SELF IS THE ENGINE OF PUBLIC PERSONA
PUBLIC PERSONA IS OUR GROUP BEHAVIOR, OUR MANNER AND POLITENESS
PUBLIC PERSONA HAS 2 FUNCTIONS: PUBLIC RELATIONS AND DAMAGE CONTROL
PUBLIC RELATIONS IS TO CREATE FAVORABLE IMAGE TO SELL OR TO COVER FLAWS
PUBLIC FIGURES NEEDS LARGE PUBLIC PERSONA
TO MANAGE AND MAINTAIN ITS ENVIRONMENT
HOWEVER PEOPLE FORGET THAT ITS PERSONALITY IS NOT THE PERSON
PEOPLE SEE THEIR PUBLIC PERSONA (IDEAL SELF) AND DON'T SEE THEIR PRIVATE SELF.
OTHERS CAN BE FOOLED BY THE PUBLIC PERSONA BUT WISE ONES SEE THE PRIVATE SELF.

DAYDREAMING

SO CALLED WORLD IS A DREAM LIVED WHEN WE ARE AWAKE IN THE DAY
WHAT IS IT LIKE TO DAY DREAM?
A CHILD DAY DREAM  OR PLAYING ROLE OR PLAYING FANTASY
USING IMAGINARY FRIENDS OR OBJECTS TO BE SOMETHING ELSE
HE CAN PLAY PRETEND TO BE A HERO, TEACHER, DRIVER, AND OTHER ADULT ROLES
DO THEY USE LANGUAGE TO IMAGINE?
THOUGHT IS THE ABILITY TO TRANSFER MEANING FROM LANGUAGE TO REALITY, FROM WORDS TO OBJECTS.
THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN WORDS AND OBJECTS IS THOUGHTS
WE HAVE THE ABILITY TO TRANSFER OBJECT INTO WORDS AND WORDS INTO OBJECTS.

IMAGINARY, PRETEND, FANTASY, DAY DREAM

WE LIVE IN A DREAM, AS ABSURD AS IT SOUND, IS LIKE RESPONDING TO PROGRAM IN COMPUTER
BECAUSE REALITY IS EMPTY, WE CLING TO THIS DREAM
GRANDIOSE FANTASY
WE LIVE IN THIS DREAM, THIS WORLD,

THIS WORLD, NOT LIFE, IS A DREAM. OUR LIFE IS IN THE DREAM, THE WORLD.

SO, "I LIVE" IS REAL/PRESENT, BUT "THE WORLD" IS THE DREAM.

"I" IS THE REACTION TO THE WORLD
IF EMOTION IS PHYSICAL REACTION TO THE STIMULI, THIS "I" IS EMOTION
THIS EMOTION WILL PRESENT BOTTOM-UP WORLD

THE WORLD PRESENTED BY EMOTION IS MORE REAL AND HAS NEGATIVE OR NEUTRAL TONE AND PRESENT BASIC NEEDS, BECAUSE IT HAS NOT BEEN FULFILLED

THE WORLD PRESENTED BY FANTASY IS MORE POSITIVE TO SOOTH OR ENTERTAIN

THIS "I" CAN TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN REAL AND FANTASY AND PREFER FANTASY

SO, THE "I" IS THE EMOTION REACTING TO THE WORLD, "REAL/NEGATIVE/NEUTRAL" OR "FANTASY/POSITIVE/IMAGINARY"

SO, THE WORLD IS NOT THE WORLD, IT'S EMOTIONAL PROGRAM TO MEET THE BODY'S NEEDS.

THE I IS THE CONSCIOUS SYMBOLIC REPRESENTATION SUBJECT PERMANENCE OF THE BODY TO MEET NEEDS
THE WORLD'S OBJECTS ARE THE CONSCIOUS SYMBOLIC REPRESENTATION OBJECT PERMANENCE OF THE OBJECTS TO GRATIFY NEEDS.

"I" -- EMOTION -- : REAL OR FANTASICAL WORLD
1. NEEDS OBJECTS TO SURVIVE
2. FANTASICAL OBJECTS OR FUTURISTIC IDEALISTIC OBJECTS TO SOOTH

thoughts 05/14/12

WE HAVE LAYERS OF PERSONALITY:
TEMPERAMENT, SHADOW, TERTIARY, AUXILIARY, AND DOMINANT (THE MOST EXTERIOR TO CONSCIOUSNESS)

PERBUATAN JAHAT HARUS DIKELUARKAN DARI PERSEMBUNYIAN BUAT OWN ACCOUNTABILITY MORE IMPORTANTLY PEOPLE'S ACCOUNTABILITY. PEOPLE WILL KEEP YOU HONEST.

FANTASY FEELS PLEASURE, REALITY NEUTRAL, NIGHTMARE STRESS. DUE TO NEUTRAL FEELING OF REALITY, WE OFTEN SUBSTITUTE STRESS FOR STIMULATION.

HAPPINESS IS NOT PLEASURE. PEOPLE WHO SUFFER CHASE PLEASURE.

STRESS - HELPLESSNESS - ACTING OUT/IN (NGAMBEK)

THINKING IS LIKE READING A BOOK
WE IDENTIFY DIRECTLY WITH THE WORDS LIKE A PICTURE THAT WE SEE
WE INTERPRET THE WORDS AND DON'T QUESTION THE MEANING
BUT, WE CAN PULL BACK AND QUESTION THE MEANING
WE CAN OBSERVE AND ANALYZE THE MEANING, LIKE OUR THOUGHTS
EMOTION CONNECT WITH IDENTITY

ADA BEDANYA PENGAMBEKAN DAN DISAKITI ORG LAIN.

DREAMING

LIFE IS A DREAM
OPEN OUR EYES WE SEE THE WORLD, CLOSE OUR EYES WE STILL SEE THE WORLD
BECAUSE THIS WORLD IS A DREAM
THERE IS THIN LINE BETWEEN LIFE AND DREAM
MOST OF THE TIME, WE DON'T LIVE OFF SENSORIC INFORMATION LIKE ANIMAL
WE REACT TO SENSORIC INFORMATION
BUT WE LIVE OFF OUR INTERPRETATION OF SENSORIC INFORMATION
WE LIVE IN THIS REFLECTION OF THIS INFORMATION
EVEN AT THE SAME TIME, WE LIVE OFF REFLECTION OF ABSENT SENSORIC INFORMATION
BECAUSE WE LIVE OFF INTERNAL INFORMATION
THOUGHTS, FEELING.

SENSES LIVE IN PRESENT, IT PROVIDE PRESENT INFORMATION
IT'S THE ONLY PRESENT INFORMATION, VISUAL, AUDIO, TOUCH, SMELL, AND TASTE
IT KNOWS NOT PAST PRESENT OR FUTURE, BECAUSE TIME IS CONCEPT
IT CAN SEE SPACE-NESS BUT IT DOES NOT KNOW SPACE
IT CAN SEE OBJECT BUT SEE NO FORM, NAME, OR EVEN MEANING OF THE OBJECT
THEY ARE ALL IMAGINATION, OUR DREAM
JUST CLOSE YOUR EYES AND YOU STILL HEAR YOURSELF TALK
GIVING COMMENT AND EXPLAINATION
THE TALKER IS ALSO THE HEARER
OTHER THAN CONCEPTS, THERE IS ALSO ILLUSION OF A PERSON INSIDE
JUST CLOSE YOUR EYES AND DREAM SO YOU CAN OPEN YOUR EYES AND SEE.

INTERNAL IDENTIFICATION

JUNG AND EMOTIONS

JUNG SAID THAT MY PERSONALITY MATCH WITH PARTNER'S PERSONALITY HOWEVER, MY SHADOW ALSO NEEDS TO MATCH WITH A SHADOW. PERSONALITY IS OUR MOST DOMINANT PERSONALITY AND OUR SHADOW IS OUR LEAST DOMINANT (EX, NeFi IS MY DOMINANT PERSONALITY, SiTe IS MY SHADOW).

KE BT AN IS PENGAMBEKAN DIRI, CREATING DISTRESS SIGNAL FOR MY OR OTHERS' REACTIONS. KE BT AN IS PENGAMBEKAN DIRI TO BE RESCUED BY OTHERS. LIKE A BABY CRY TO BE RESCUED BY ADULTS FOR HIS NEEDS.

THERE ARE TWO KINDS OF PROBLEMS: GENERAL AND SPECIFIC. GENERAL PROBLEMS ARE THEORIES AND PATTERN. SPECIFIC PROBLEMS ARE HISTORIC, AUTOBIOGRAPHIC, OR STORY. IT S THE KIND OF PROBLEMS. LIKE EVERYBODY HAS DIFFERENT LIFE THUS HAS DIFFERENT PROBLEMS.
 GENERAL PROBLEMS IS LIKE OUR PHYSICAL MATERIALS OR MATERIAL FOR CLOTHES. SPECIFIC PROBLEMS IS LIKE OUR CLOTHES, THERE ARE MANY KINDS DEPEND ON CREATIVITY AND STYLE.
HUMAN IS THE MOST DANGEROUS ANIMAL. HUMAN LIFE IS AN INTRASPECIES JUNGLE. WE LIVE BETTER IN THE PAST. FUTURE IS ALWAYS INCOMPLETE AND FULL OF TRIAL AND ERROR.

DEFAULT EMOTION

STRESS

STRESS IS OUR MOST COMMON EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS
DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY ARE SYMPTOMS OF STRESS
LIFE IS TRAUMATIC AND WE ALL EXPERIENCE PTSD
ALL EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS IS STRESS
LIKE BRAKE FICTION, WE STRESS OURSELVES

BODY USE STRESS/PAIN SIGNAL TO ALERT US TO ACTION TO REMOVE THE STRESS
ANIMAL'S STRESS IS REMOVED AFTER THE THREAT IS GONE OR IT'S FULFILLED
HUMAN DON'T REMOVE THE STRESS, WE SOOTH OURSELVES AND THE STRESS REMAIN
WE HAVE SIMILAR STRESS WITH ANIMAL BECAUSE LIVE IN WILD
HUMAN LIVE IN MORE SAFE ENVIRONMENT BUT HAS INTRASPECIES STRESS
MOST OF THE STRESS IS INTRASPECIES THAT'S WHY IT'S ONGOING
STRESS IS AROUND US, BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE ANIMAL.

WE ARE SELFISH AND STRESS IS PART OF LIFE.

STRESS IS OUR RESPONSE TO DEFICIENCY OF NEEDS

COGNITIVE PROBLEMS IS MORE SOOTHING BEHAVIOR WHERE WE LOOK FOR FANTASY
WHEN WE DENY OUR STRESSFUL EXISTENCE
CREATING PERSONALITY OR ALTER EGO TO MANIPULATE CONSEQUENCES OR TO ALTER CONSEQUENCES OR TO CREATE UNREAL FANTASY.

I CAN'T EMPHATIZE TOO MUCH WITH YOU BECAUSE IF I DO, I WILL BE WHERE YOU ARE.

BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS IS EITHER TO REMOVE STRESS OR TO SOOTH SELF. TO RESIST HELP.

ALL BEHAVIORS ARE EMOTIONAL BASED TO REMOVE STRESS (ACT OUT) EVEN TO SOOTH SELF (ACT IN). SOME BEHAVIOR ARE EMOTIONAL COGNITIVE BASED, TO SOOTH SELF TO REMOVE STRESS.

DENIAL OF STRESS IS ALSO EMOTIONAL BEHAVIORS. THE GOOD THING ABOUT EMOTION IS THAT IT KEEP US GROUNDED, WE CAN;T LIE OR SHAM. PEOPLE HAS TO REMOVE EMOTIONAL OR SUBJECTIVITY, LIKE PROFESSIONALISM OR SEVERE PATHOLOGY, TO SHAM.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PATHOLOGY AND MYSTICIM. PATHOLOGY'S BASED OF BEHAVIOR IS STRESS/EMOTIONAL PROBLEM THAT IS DENIED. PATHOLOGY IS RESPONDING TO STRESS, IT IS A DEFENSE MECHANISM. MYSTICISM HAS NO PROBLEMS UNDERNEATH, THE PROBLEMS HAVE BEEN ROOTED OUT. MYSTICISM IS FREEDOM.

DENIAL PHYSICAL AND MEETING SOCIAL NEEDS ONLY IS DEFENSE MECHANISM, IDEALISM OR ALTER EGO OR PERSONALITY. DENIAL OF PHYSICAL AND SOCIAL AND GOING AFTER SPIRITUAL NEEDS IS ALSO IDEALISM, DEFENSE MECHANISM, ALTER EGO OR PERSONALITY. THEY ALL RESPOND TO STRESS OF DEFICIENCY.

NATURE IS SMART. WE CAN'T LIE TO NATURE. ACTION AND CONSEQUENCE. SOCIAL AND NATURAL CONSEQUENCE. ALWAYS CHANGING AND MOVING. WE GET HURT WHEN WE FALL FROM TREE BECAUSE WE ARE SOLID. WE SUFFER BECAUSE WE BELIEVE IN RIGID OBJECTS IN MIND. LIFE IS LIKE WATER. WE STOP LIFE TOO MUCH TO ANALYZE AND SOMETIMES, WE FORGET TO MOVE AGAIN.

WE HAVE TO LIVE LIKE DRIVING. NO RIGHT AND WRONG, JUST DOING WITHOUT REALIZING IT, DOING WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT IT. WE NEED COMPETENCY IN LIFE AND WE HAVE. JUST ENJOY THE VIEW. DON'T WORRY ABOUT THINGS WE DON'T KNOW YET. WE ALREADY HAVE EVERYTHING WE NEED. DON'T HAVE TO LEARN EVERYTHING. DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK. SOCIAL CONSEQUENCE IS RECIPROCITY PRINCIPLE IS NOT LOGICAL CONSEQUENCE. LOGICAL CONSEQUENCE ONLY FOR CHILDREN. LIFE IS PREFERENCE.

STRESS OR EMOTION IS ALWAYS FUTURE ORIENTED OR CONSEQUENCE
PEOPLE DON'T AVOID STRESS THEY AVOID OR WANT CONSEQUENCE
STRESS IS SIGNAL OR SYMPTOM

STRESS IS ALWAYS RELATED TO CONSEQUENCES EXCEPT IN CHEMICALLY CAUSED.

EMOTIONAL PROBLEM/STRESS RELATES TO CONSEQUENCE WHERE COGNITIVE PROBLEM RELATE TO SOOTHING BEHAVIOR TO STRESS.

INDEPENDENT RESPONSIBLE

EMOTION IS ALARM, LIKE NEGATIVE OR POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT
BEHAVIOR IS TO EITHER REMOVE THE NEGATIVE OR ADD THE POSITIVE

WHEN WE HAVE A NEGATIVE GOAL, WE REMOVE THE NEGATIVE GOAL BY EXAGERATING THE NEGATIVITY AND ADD THE POSITIVE GOAL BY EXAGERATING THE POSITIVITY

WHEN WE HAVE A POSITIVE GOAL, WE ADD THE POSITIVE GOAL

IRRESPONSIBLE BEHAVIOR CAN BE TO REMOVE THE NEGATIVE GOAL OR ADD THE POSITIVE GOAL.

THE CLOSER, BIGGER, HEAVIER THE OBJECT, THE MORE ENERGY WE PREPARE OUR MUSCLE FOR.

WE ARE LIKE SITTING ON NEST OF ANTS WHERE WE GET ITCHY ALL THE TIME. SOME PEOPLE HAVE MORE SENSITIVE SKIN THAN OTHERS.

PRESENTING PROBLEMS ARE SYMPTOM OR BEHAVIORS
MOST OF DISORDERS ARE ADULTS' ONLY 1 FOR CHILDREN
DISORDER HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH BEING IN SOCIETY
RESISTANCE TO TREATMENT IS DIFFERENT THAN DISORDER

PSYCHOLOGY STRUCTURE IS OVERRATED. ALL THEORIES ARE TRYING TO EXPLAIN STRUCTURE.

EMOTION HAS ITS OWN TARGET, THE MOST BASIC, SAFEST. EMOTION WORK FROM THE BOTTOM UP. IT'S DIFFERENT BETWEEN THINKING ABOUT AN EVENT AND BEING IN THE EVENT. WHEN WE ARE IN THE EVENT, OUR EMOTION WILL TAKE OVER AND SCAN FROM BASIC NEEDS AND WILL MAINTAIN THE BASIC NEEDS BEFORE THE MIND CAN DO THE ADVANCE NEEDS.

EMOTION IS OUR LIZZARD BRAIN, PRIMITIVE AND BASIC. ITS FIELD IS NARROW AND IT'S NOT SMART. MORE EMOTION, LESS COGNITIVE. MORE COGNITIVE LESS EMOTION. EMOTION TAKES CARE OF SURVIVAL AND BASIC NEEDS. IT RESPOND TO MASTERY. IF WE EXPERIENCE TRAUMA, THAT MEANS WE HAVE NOT MASTER THE SITUATION. THERE IS HELPLESSNESS.

THIS LIZZARD HAS ANIMAL VIEW, SIMPLER AND MORE KINESTATIC, LESS THINKING, PREDATORY, FIGHT/FLIGHT, GOAL ORIENTED, STIMULUS-RESPONSE, MORE CONFLICT/COMPETITION ORIENTED AND NEED ORIENTED.

WE NEED THIS LIZZARD TO BE INDEPENDENT, BUT WE NEED COGNITIVE TO BE RESPONSIBLE. TO BE MATURE CIVILIZED HUMAN BEING IS TO BE INDEPENDENT RESPONSIBLE.

TO BE HUMAN IS TO BE MORE THAN ANIMAL. TO GET CAUGHT BY EMOTION IS TO BE ANIMAL. THAT'S WHY THEY ARE ANIMAL, THEIR LIFE IS DETERMINED BY EMOTION, HUNGRY-FULL, LIFE/DEATH.

EMOTION IS VERY SMART AND USEFUL TO LIVE. BUT RISE ABOVE IT.

OBJECTIVE AND SUBJECTIVE

A PERSON IS INTELLIGENT BOTH EMOTIONALLY AND COGNITIVELY
CUNNING, MANIPULATIVE, AND DECEPTIVE
IF WE LOOK FROM AFAR, WE CAN APPRECIATE HIS GENIUS
HOWEVER, IF WE ARE THE VICTIM WE ARE SUBJECTIVE

THE SUBJECT IS THE FOCUS OF OUR ATTENTION.
WE DON'T FOCUS ON THE ENVIRONMENT ANYMORE
THIS SUBJECT WILL BRING HIS COMPLEX WORLD THAT BECOMES OUR FOCUS
THIS SUBJECT HAS HIS OWN IDEA ABOUT THAT PERSON
WE SEE ONLY THE NEGATIVE

OBJECTIVITY IS THE THIRD PERSON EMPATHY
SUBJECTIVITY IS THE FIRST PERSON EMPATHY

IF A FRIEND HAS PAIN, WE DON'T FEEL THE PAIN, WE CAN BE OBJECTIVE
BUT, IF WE HAVE THE PAIN, WE ONLY THINK OF THE PAIN

WHEN OTHERS ARE IN CRISIS, WE CAN BE OBJECTIVE
BUT WHEN WE ARE IN CRISIS, WE ARE IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT, A WHOLE COMPLEX COME OUT

FOR EXAMPLE, WHEN I GET A TICKET, I WORRY ABOUT IT SO MUCH
I AM EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO THE CONSEQUENCE
BUT, LOOKING BACK NOW, I ONLY SEE THE EVENT.

THE COMPLEX HAS EMOTION THAT ACTUALLY BLOCK OUR ENERGY
LIKE NERVOUSNESS CAN HINDER A PERFORMANCE

WHEN WE ONLY THINK ABOUT IT, IT IS NOT REAL
BUT WHEN WE ARE IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT, IT IS REAL

SO, THE COMPLEX OR SUBJECTIVITY IS EMOTION AND NARROWER FIELD OF VISION
WE ONLY SEE POTENTIAL PROBLEMS THAT CAN HURT US, WE DON'T SEE THE BIG PICTURE.
LIKE IN A GAME, WE ONLY SEE WHAT'S IN FRONT OF US. WE ARE AWARE OF THE PEOPLE,

IN PUBLIC SPEAKING OR MOMENT OF CRISIS, EMOTION CAN TAKE OVER AND GIVE US NARROW PRIMITIVE FIELD OF VISION, BASIC FIELD OF VISION.

WHEN NOT IN CRISIS, WE ARE OBJECTIVE, NO ATTACHMENT AND NO EMOTIONS.
WHEN WE ARE IN CRISIS OR POSITIVE EMOTION, WE ARE SUBJECTIVE, ATTACHMENT AND EMOTIONAL.

FOR EXAMPLE, IN INFATUATION, WE ONLY SEE AN EXAGERATED VERSION OF OUR BELOVED AND THE WORLD IS ONLY FOR TWO OF US. WE CAN'T SLEEP AND OBSESSED WITH THE BELOVED. BECAUSE EMOTION IS READY FOR ACTION.

IN CRISIS, OUR MAP ZOOMED IN TO DETAIL TO A PERSON'S PERSONALITY, FEELING, MIND. ESPECIALLY TO OUR PERSON. IT'S LIKE WE ARE IN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH EVERYBODY. LIKE EVERYTHING IS BIG AND MATTER.

OBJECTS BECOME BIG AND MATTER THE CLOSER IT GETS OR THE MORE IMPORTANT IT GETS.

SO, EMOTION MAKE OUR WORLD SMALLER AND SPECIFIC DETAIL, BOTH THE SUBJECT AND OBJECTS. WE MAGNIFY PROBLEMS, OBJECTS AND SUBJECT.

LIKE OUR EMOTION ALLOW US TO ZOOM IN TO A PICTURE TO FIX PARTS OF THE PICTURE.

TREATMENT SUPPORT

IN TREATMENT ENVIRONMENT, THERE ARE CLIENT AND SUPPORTING ENVIRONMENT. SUPPORTING ENVIRONMENT, THERE ARE PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL.
CLIENT, PERSONAL, AND PROFESSIONAL HAS 3 DIFFERENT WORLDS IN TREATMENT.
THE PROFESSIONAL ARE THERE TO WORK
CLIENTS HAS RESPONSIVITY FACTORS.
PERSONAL CANNOT ASK THE CLIENT TO GO TO HIS WORLD AND HE DOESNT WANT TO GO TO THE CLIENT'S WORLD.

FROM MULTICULTURAL PSYCHOLOGY, CLIENTS EXPERIENCE STIGMA BOTH TO THE DISORDER AND THE TREATMENT. FEELING OF SHAME, GUILT, CONFUSED, ANGRY, FRUSTRATION, HELPLESSNESS IS COMMON.
TO REMOVE STIGMA, THERE IS REHABILITATION PRINCIPLE: INSTEAD OF USING THE LABEL OR DISORDER LIKE ADDICT, ALCOHOLIC, AUTIST, DISABLED, WE USE "A PERSON WHO HAS ADDICTION, ALCOHOLISM, AUTISM, DISABILITY"
USING THIS MODEL, WE RECOGNIZE A PERSON (90%) WHO HAS DISABILITY (10%).

THEN DOCTOR CAN FOCUS ON THE DISORDER OR DISABILITY WHERE COUNSELING FOCUS ON BEHAVIOR AND SKILLS: COMMUNICATION - SPEECH THERAPY, INDEPENDENT SKILLS, OR STOPPING IRRESPONSIBLE BEHAVIORS.

WHO SUPPORTS THE PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL?

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THEIR EMOTIONAL OR THINKING PROCESS

PSYCHOLOGY

THE GOAL OF PSYCHOLOGY IS TO FACILITATE INDEPENDENT SKILLS AND RESPONSIBLE BEHAVIOR.
INDEPENDENT SKILLS IS IMPORTANT TO LIVE AS A HUMAN BEING EITHER IN PRIVATE LIFE OR IN SOCIAL LIFE.
INDEPENDENT SKILLS ARE SKILLS TO MEET ONE OWN NEEDS AND TO OWN ACCOUNTABILITY.
RESPONSIBLE BEHAVIORS ARE BEHAVIORS THAT DOESN'T VIOLATE OTHER PEOPLE'S NEED.
RESPONSIBLE BEHAVIORS IS IMPORTANT TO LIVE IN SOCIAL LIFE.
RESPONSIBLE BEHAVIORS ALSO INVOLVED BEHAVIOR THAT DON'T HURT ONESELF, BECAUSE BEHAVIORS THAT HURT ONESELF HURT OTHERS.

ALL DISORDER IS TYPOLOGY BASED ON SYMPTOM
ALL SYMPTOMS ARE BEHAVIORS THAT IS EITHER NOT INDEPENDENT OR IRRESPONSIBLE.
SO, PSYCHOLOGY IS NOT TREATMENT TO FIX EMOTION OR THOUGHT. WHEN LEARNING SKILLS AND BEHAVIORS, SOMETIMES, IT IS IMPORTANT TO LOOK AT THOUGHT AND EMOTIONAL STRUCTURES.
IF A PERSON IS FRUSTRATED AND HE IS ANGRY, HIS EMOTIONAL SYSTEM IS WORKING
EVEN IF A PERSON HAS MANIPULATIVE THOUGHT, THAT MEANS HIS THINKING PROCESS IS WORKING.

HOLISTIC APPROACH TO TREATMENT INVOLVED PHYSICAL/MEDICATION, REHABILITATION/PHYSICAL SKILLS, AND COUNSELING TO LEARN SKILLS AND RESPONSIBLE BEHAVIORS.
COUNSELING IS LIKE THE PLANNING PROCESS OF MANAGING AND REHABING NEW SKILLS.

WHEN FOCUSING ON BEHAVIOR AND SKILLS, WE DON'T GET CAUGHT UP TALKING ABOUT ILLNESS/DISORDER WHICH IS LABEL.
EVEN A WORD "DISORDER/KELAINAN" HAS STIGMA OR NEGATIVE CONNOTATION
ILLNESS/DISORDER IS PHYSICAL AND CAN BE FIXED WITH MEDICATION.

WHEN LOOKING ON BEHAVIOR AND SKILLS, EACH PERSON IS DIFFERENT, NOT DISORDER OR DISABLE
A PERSON CAN LEARN RESPONSIBLE BEHAVIOR AND INDEPENDENT SKILLS, THE TIME MAY BE DIFFERENT FOR EACH INDIVIDUAL

PERSONA AND SHADOW

WHAT IS EVIL IS OUR DEFENSE MECHANISM
OUR PRIMITIVE DEFENSE MECHANISM THAT WE SURPRESS
PERSONA IS THE PRIMITIVE DEFENSE MECHANISM TO MANIPULATE/CON PUBLIC
AN AGGRESSIVE PERSON CAN PLAY PASSIVE IF THAT'S WHAT THE SOCIETY WANTS
IT DEPENDS ON A PERSON'S TEMPERAMENT, AGGRESSIVE, PASSIVE
TEMPARAMENT ALONE IS NOT BAD, A FRUSTRATED TEMPERAMENT IS BAD

TEMPERAMENT THAT LEAD TO FRUSTRATION LEAD TO PERSONA TO COVER THE FRUSTRATED TEMPERAMENT.
WHEN THE TEMPERAMENT IS NOT ACCEPTED AND IS PUNISHED, IT GETS FRUSTRATED.

A DIFFICULT CHILD IS A TEMPERAMENT BUT A FRUSTRATED DIFFICULT CHILD IS A SHADOW THAT CAN USE PERSONA TO PLAY ALONG WITH OTHERS TO GET WHAT HE WANTS.

Consequential thinker

HUMAN MIND USE LANGUAGE TO MAP EVENT AND SEQUENCE
SEQUENCE IS TEMPORAL WHERE EVENT IS SPATIAL
HUMAN MIND IS CON-SEQUENTIAL, PREDICTING GOAL OR REACTION
WHAT IS GOAL BUT CONSEQUENCE THAT WE SET
DESTINATION OF OUR ACTION

HOWEVER, CONSEQUENCE COULD ALSO BE SOMETHING THAT WE CAN'T CONTROL SUCH AS OTHERS' REACTION AND OTHER UNCONTROLLABLE FACTORS
OUR MIND'S PURPOSE IS TO PLAN ACTION
THE PROGRAM TO BE EXECUTED
A MAP TO FOLLOW
IT ALWAYS START WITH DESTINATION
WHEN WE PLAN ACTION, WE ALWAYS PLAN FOR GOAL AND PAY ATTENTION TO REACTIONS.
THIS CONSEQUENCE IS SOMETHING THAT WE WANT TO GET AND WANT TO AVOID.

OUR EMOTION IS OUR SENSOR ON OUR CONSEQUENCE OR PROGRESS TOWARD GOALS.
WE ALWAYS THINK ABOUT CONSEQUENCE, THAT'S WHAT MAKE US HUMAN.
THIS ABILITY CREATE SOCIETY AND PROGRESS BECAUSE WE CAN PREDICT CONSEQUENCE FROM PREVIOUS KNOWLEDGE.
IF WE DO THIS, THEN...

HOWEVER, OUR MAP OF CONSEQUENCE MAY BE INACCURATE LIKE USING AN INACCURATE MAP CAN LEAD US AWAY FROM OUR DESTINATION

ACTION ALWAYS HAS A GOAL OR OBJECT. THE QUESTION IS WHAT IS THE GOAL. OUR MIND WILL START FROM THE MOST BASIC GOAL, TRYING TO MEET THE MORE BASIC NEEDS BEFORE ADDRESSING MORE ADVANCE NEEDS. LIKE PHYSICAL NEEDS BEFORE EDUCATIONAL NEEDS.

ALL EMOTIONS, POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE, REACT TO CONSEQUENCE. I AM HAPPY IF I DON;'T HAVE TO WORK TOMORROW. WE LIVE FOR TOMORROW. CONSEQUENCE IS THE SOURCE OF ALL AFFLICTIVE EMOTION, FEAR, SHAME, GUILT, ETC. IT'S ALL IN THE MIND.

ANIMAL HAS BASIC CONSEQUENTIAL MIND, PHYSICAL, SECURITY, AND SOCIAL, BUT IN THE MOST BASIC FORMS. HUMAN HAS MORE COMPLICATED CONSEQUENTIAL MIND, IT CAN SIMULATE REAL LIFE USING LANGUAGE TO CREATE STORY THAT IMITATE LIFE.

SPIRITUAL LIFE

AS PART OF SOCIETY MEMBER, WE ARE EXPECTED TO OWN OUR ACTION AND BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR OUR NEEDS, ACTION AND CONSEQUENCES.
A PERSON WHO ACTUALIZE HIS POTENTIAL, WHO IS INTERDEPENDENT HAS REACHED THE TOP OF THE SOCIAL PYRAMID.
HOWEVER, THE HIGHEST LEVEL HAPPEN INSIDE OUR MIND WHERE WE DETACH FROM OWNERSHIP OF OUR SELVES AND REALIZE THE NATURAL TRUTH, THE NATURE OF THINGS, THE HIGHEST KNOWLEDGE, THE TRUTH.
THAT WE DON'T OWN ANYTHING AND THERE IS NO WE
THE OWNERSHIP IS A SOCIAL CONCEPT AND IT S ONLY A SYMBOL TO MARK OWNERSHIP.
BEYOND SOCIAL DIMENSION, IN THE SPIRITUAL AND ESPECIALLY IN MYSTICAL DIMENSION, THERE IS NO I, NO OWNERSHIP, THERE IS NO NAME, THERE IS EMPTY. THERE IS NO IDENTIFICATION WITH ANY OBJECTS, STOP BELIEVING IN OBJECT EXISTING BY ITSELF, IT IS ONLY GHOSTLY IMAGE, MENTAL MARKERS, WRITING IN THE MIND, TALKING TO ONESELF.

SO A PERSON HAS TO ACTUALIZE BOTH THE PUBLIC SOCIAL NEEDS, INTERDEPENDENT ACCOUNTABILITY AND THE HIGHER PRIVATE NEEDS, NO OWNERSHIP. A PERSON WHO CHASE THE HIGHER PRIVATE NEEDS NEGLECT HIS PUBLIC SOCIAL NEEDS AND A PERSON WHO ONLY MEET THE PUBLIC SOCIAL NEEDS NEGLECT THE HIGHER PRIVATE NEEDS.

BUT A PERSON HAS TO MEET THE PUBLIC SOCIAL NEED FIRST OF RIGHT OWNERSHIP, NO EXAGERATION, AND NO DENIAL. A PERSON CANNOT NEGLECT OWNERSHIP OR ACCOUNTABILITY OR OWNERSHIP FOR OTHERS WITHOUT CONSENT, DOESN'T EXAGERATE IMAGE, AND NO DENIAL.

WHEN THOSE NEEDS ARE MET, A PERSON CAN PRACTICE TO SEE THE NATURE OF THING, THE HIGHEST KNOWLEDGE OF DETACHMENT OF OWNERSHIP THAT THERE IS NO OWNER AND THERE IS NO OWNERSHIP. WHEN A PERSON CAN SEE THIS, IT IS ENLIGHTENMENT, THERE IS NO ATTACHMENT, THERE IS NO DENIAL, THERE IS NO SUFFERING, THERE IS NO GREED, AND THERE IS NO CRAVING.

THERE ARE 3 LEVEL OF NEEDS: PERSONAL, SOCIAL, AND UNIVERSAL. PERSONAL NEEDS ARE BASIC PHYSICAL, SECURITY, AND SOCIAL NEEDS (LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP), THE SOCIAL NEEDS ARE ACTUALIZING POTENTIAL SELF(ACCOUNTABILITY/OWNERSHIP/INTERDEPENDENT AND NO DENIAL), AND THE UNIVERSAL/SPIRITUAL NEEDS ARE FORM AND FORMLESS AND THE HIGHEST IS ENLIGHTENMENT.

A PERSON MUST MEET THE PERSONAL TO MOVE TO SOCIAL. HE HAS TO MEET THE PERSONAL AND SOCIAL TO GO TO UNIVERSAL/SPIRITUAL NEEDS.

LACK OF NEEDS CAUSE DEFICIENCY. LACK IN BASIC PERSONAL NEEDS CAUSE MORE SEVERE DISORDER. LACK IN SOCIAL NEEDS CAUSE LESS SEVERE DISORDER, ORV SOCIAL OR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, LACK IN UNIVERSAL/SPIRITUAL NEEDS CAUSE IGNORANCE. THE HIGHER IT GOES, THE LESS SUFFERING IT CAUSE.

DEFICIENCY CAN CAUSE ADDICTION TO SELF MEDICATE, DRUGS, SEX, ACTIVITY, ETC. A PERSON ONLY DEAL WITH SYMPTOM OR SUFFERING. DEFICIENCY CAN LEAD TO ADDICTION CYCLE THAT HAS ITS OWN WORLD.

KEMANDIRIAN OR INDEPENDENCE

WE ARE ACCOUNTABLE FOR WHAT WE HAVE RECEIVED OR LENT
OUR BODY, MIND, AND BEHAVIOR.
WE HAVE BEEN PUT IN CHARGE TO TAKE CARE OF OUR ENVIRONMENT
BUT SOCIETY HAS CREATED ORGANIZATIONS TO TAKE CARE OF IT
BUT WE STILL HAVE RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE CARE OF IT.

BECAUSE OF SOCIAL SYSTEM, WE HAVE BEEN PUT IN CHARGE TO TAKE CARE OF OUR OWN LIFE, IT S CALLED INDEPENDENCE.
INDEPENDENCE IS MARKS OF ADULTHOOD
ACCOUNTABILITY TO MEET OUR OWN NEEDS WITHOUT VIOLATING OTHERS' NEEDS
IT IS NOT THAT WE OWN IT BUT WE HAVE BEEN PUT IN CHARGE TO TAKE CARE OF IT.
TAKING CARE WHAT IS MINE.

SO,  OWNERSHIP IS NOT A BAD THING. BEING SLAVED BY IT BECAUSE OF IGNORANCE IS.
THIS BLIND SLAVERY EXAGERATES THE MASTER AND SLAVE OTHERS
THIS BLIND SLAVERY PUT THE DYSFUNCTIONAL MASTER IN CHARGE.

NOT BEING ACCOUNTABLE IN A SOCIAL SYSTEM IS NOT HEALTHY, BECAUSE SOMEBODY HAS TO TAKE CARE OF US AND IT VIOLATE THEIR NEEDS AND LEAD TO CO DEPENDENCY

BEING ACCOUNTABLE OF OTHERS IS NOT HEALTHY BECAUSE WE ARE CONTROLLING SOMETHING WE CAN'T CONTROL AND MAKES OTHERS TO BE SLAVE.

MEETING OUR NEEDS AT OTHERS' EXPENSE IS NOT HEALTHY BECAUSE WE VIOLATE OTHERS' NEEDS.

BEING ACCOUNTABLE MEANS BEING ACCOUNTABLE FOR ACTION AND CONSEQUENCES.

SO, OWNERSHIP IS NOT A BAD THING. BLIND OWNERSHIP IS. OWNERSHIP TO THE WRONG MASTER/EXAGERATED MASTER IS.

DENIAL OF SELF

DENIAL OF SELF IS A RESULT OF CONFLICT BETWEEN THE OWNED SELF AND SOCIAL SYSTEM.
FIRST, THERE IS TWO DIFFERENT RULES BETWEEN OUR BODY AND THE SOCIAL SYSTEM
THE BODY OR ID WANTS TO MEET ITS NEED, BUT THE PROBLEM IS THAT IT LIVES WITH MILLION OTHER PEOPLE WHO WANTS THE SAME THING.
THIS CREATE INTRASPECIES CONFLICT AND CAN LEAD TO INFERIORITY
SO THE SOCIAL SYSTEM HAS A PRINCIPLE OF HARM AND RECIPROCITY

WHAT A PERSON LIKE AND WHAT SOCIETY LIKE IS DIFFERENT
TO BE ACCEPTED BY A GROUP, WE ARE EXPECTED TO LIKE WHAT SOCIETY LIKE/DESIRE
THIS CREATE SOCIAL DESIRABILITY, RELIGION DESIRABILITY, FAMILY DESIRABILITY, SCHOOL DESIRABILITY, ETC.
THE CONFLICT OF THIS GROUP DESIRABILITY AND SELF LEADS TO DENIAL OF SELF WHEN THE NEED TO BE ACCEPTED BY THE GROUP IS LARGER THAN ACCEPTED BY SELF.

THIS DENIAL LEAD TO HYPOCRISY OR PRETEND LIFE WHERE A PERSON LIVE IN LIE.
HE HAS TO PRETEND AND MAINTAIN IMAGE OR LIE AND IS AFRAID THAT HIS REAL SELF IS CAUGHT OR FOUND.
AFTER A WHILE, A PERSON FORGET HIS REAL SELF AND ADOPT HIS IDEAL SELF AS REAL SELF AND HE IS BUSY PLAYING A ROLE AND GETS TIRED
MEANWHILE, HIS REAL SELF IS BEYOND HIS CONTROL.

HE ALWAYS HAS CONFLICT BETWEEN THIS REAL AND IDEAL SELF. HE HATES HIS REAL SELF MORE AND MORE. HE WILL HURT OTHERS LIKE HOW HE HAS BEEN HURT. LIKE BATMAN WHO USE HIS FEAR AS HIS WEAPON. BUT HE IS NOT AWARE OF HIS REAL SELF WHO HURT OTHERS BECAUSE IT HAS BEEN SURPRESSED. HE WILL COME UP WITH EXCUSE OR BLAME OTHERS FOR MISHAPS. HE HAS TO MAINTAIN PERFECT IMAGE.

THIS DENIAL CAN ALSO LEAD TO OWNERSHIP TO THE IDEAL SELF OR COMFORT ZONE WHERE THE REAL SELF IS OUTSIDE THE COMFORT ZONE. SO THIS OWNERSHIP AND DENIAL GOES HAND IN HAND.

KEPEMILIKANV OR OWNERSHIP

NATURE IS SMART
WHAT CAUSE SUFFERING IS TWO, I NESS OR OWNERSHIP OR KEPEMILIKAN SAYA DAN DENIAL
WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR IS NOT THE SELF, A THING
WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR IS THE I NESS OR RASA KEPEMILIKAN SAYA
IS A QUALITY OR FEELING THAT DIFFERENTIATE SUBJECT AND OBJECT
THAT PRODUCE SUBJECTIVITY AND OBJECTIVITY
LIKE WE EVALUATEV OR ESTEEM A PRODUCT THAT WE WANT TO SELL, HIGH OR LOW.
IF WE VALUE OUR PRODUCT LOW, WE FEEL ASHAME AND AFRAID

WHAT IS OWNERSHIP? IT IS A SOCIAL AGREEMENT THAT COVERS OUR BEHAVIOR TOWARD AN OBJECT. IT COMES WITH RIGHT OF OWNERSHIP, HUMAN RIGHT.

IT IS OUR BELIEF ON A SOCIAL SYSTEM THAT WE FOLLOW
SO FIRST, THERE IS THIS OWNERSHIP, THIS PRIVATIZATION BEFORE WE PUT VALUE ON IT.
TO OWN SOMETHING IS TO HAVE SOMETHING UNTIL SOLD
TO OWN SOMETHING IS TO BE ACCOUTABLE FOR THEM
THERE ARE THINGS THAT IS OURS TO OWN SINCE BIRTH AND THERE ARE THINGS WE HAVE TO BUY
THERE ARE THINGS WE OWN THAT WE EXCHANGE WITH OTHERS, LIKE TIME AND EFFORT WITH MONEY, MONEY WITH THINGS, SERVICE WITH MONEY, MONEY WITH SERVICE, INVESTMENT.

THINGS WE OWN SINCE BIRTH IS OUR BODY AND THE PRODUCT OF OUR CREATION, OUR BEHAVIOR, SKILLS, ARTS. THIS IS FREE AND SOMETHING WE CAN TRADE WITH OTHERS. THINGS WE OWN SINCE BIRTH IS OUR LIFE.

HOWEVER, WE DON'T OWN ANYTHING. EVERYTHING IS BORROWED. EVERYTHING IS NATURE'S. NATURE DON'T EVEN OWN ANYTHING. IT JUST IS.

BECAUSE OF THE SOCIAL SYSTEM, WE ARE LENT SOME PROPERTY TO MANAGE. WE ARE GIVEN ACCOUNTABILITY TO MANAGE OUR OWN BODY, TO HELP MANAGE THE EARTH. WE ARE GIVEN ACCOUNTABILITY TO MANAGE OUR OWN LIFE. THIS IS THE DIFFERENCE OF SOCIALISM AND CAPITALISM.

BUT SPIRITUALLY, WE DON'T OWN OR BORROW ANYTHING. GREED COLLECT RESOURCE TO KEEP ALIVE OR FOR PLEASURE. FEAR OF DEATH MAKE US ATTACH TO CONSCIOUS SELF. SELF OR SENSE OF BODY APPEAR WHEN WE ARE IN PAIN

WITH GREED, PEOPLE WANT TO EXPAND THEIR TERRITORY AND OWNERSHIP, MONEY, SYMBOL OF POWER. THOSE LARGE TERRITORY REQUIRE LARGE EGO TO MANAGE THE TERRITORY. THAT'S WHY FAMOUS AND POWERFUL INDIVIDUAL WHO ARE EXPOSED TO PUBLIC HAVE LARGE EGO TO MAINTAIN THE PUBLIC IMAGE.

WE COMPETE WITH OTHERS ON COLLECTING MORE AND MORE RESOURCES AND THE EGO GETS LARGER AND LARGER. THE FAME POWER AND WEALTH ARE VALUED HIGHLY SYMBOLICALLY AND WAS CHASED AS IF TO BRING HAPPINESS. THEY BRING FAME POWER AND WEALTH BUT NOT HAPPINESS. THEY BRING TEMPATION FOR THE LARGE EGO. LARGE EGO IS MORE DIFFICULT TO CONTROL AND TO FEED. AS OUR EGO GETS LARGE, WE FORGET ABOUT THE ONE AT HOME. LIKE MALIN KUNDANG STORY, WE LIKE THE FAMOUS WEALTHY POWERFUL IMAGE AND FORGET THE POOR PARENTS AT HOME. THE EGO GETS GREEDY AND EAT MORE AND MORE AND HURT PEOPLE. THEY NEED OR CRAVE OTHERS' ADMIRATION AND OBEDIENCE AND ATTENTION. IT'S BRANDING, AN IMAGE, THE PACKAGING THAT THEY SELL, ONLY THE SYMBOL.

WE DON'T LIVE IN TERRITORY, WE LIVE IN MAPS. WE LIVE IN SYMBOLIC WORLD. EVERYTHING HAS A TITLE, A PIECE OF PAPER OR ELECTRONIC NUMBERS. WHEN WE BUY A HOUSE, WE BUY THE PIECE OF PAPER THAT WE SIGN. WE EXCHANGE THE NAME OF A COMPANY OR BUILDING OR CAR FOR US TO USE THE OBJECTS.

SO, OBJECTS ARE SOMETHING WE USE OR ABUSE. EVEN OUR SELVES SERVE US, BUT IF WE FORGET WE SERVE THEM, WE ARE SLAVE TO THEM.

WHEN WE OWN SOMETHING, WE POSSESS IT. WE DON'T WANT TO SUFFER OR GET HURT AND WE WANT IT TO BE HAPPY. LIKE A CHILD WHO CRY WHEN HE LOSE HIS TOYS, WE ARE POSSESSIVE ABOUT WHAT WE THINK IS OURS. THE MORE CHILDISH THE PERSON IS, THE MORE POSSESSIVE HE IS WHERE HE CAN'T SHARE. THE MORE POSSESSIVE, THE MORE OBSESSIVE. POSSESSIVENESS INVOLVE INFATUATED WITH THE OBJECT AS A PLEASURABLE OBJECT. SO DOES THE BODY, WE USE OR ABUSE OUR BODY TO BRING PLEASURE. PLEASURE BRING COMFORT ZONE. MORE POSSESSIVE LEAD TO SMALLER COMFORT ZONE OR RIGIDITY THAT BRING MORE ANXIETY STRESS FEAR.

OTHER THAN PHYSICAL PLEASURE THAT WE CREATE, THE FIVE SENSES, WE ALSO USE OBJECTS THAT SYMBOLIZE FAME WEALTH POWER FRIENDLINESS TO BRING US POSITIVE CONSEQUENCE, PLEASURE.

THE MORE ATTACHED WE ARE TO OUR COMFORT ZONE, THE STRONGER OUR COMFORT ZONE BECOMES,  THE STRONGER/RIGID IT BECOMES, MORE FEAR OR ANXIETY WE HAVE.

LIKE MORE ADDICTION BRINGS MORE CRAVING. WE BECOME ADDICTED TO OUR COMFORT ZONE, WE BECOME POSSESSIVE/OBSESSIVE. WEAK ATTACHMENT SELF LEAD TO STRONGER ADDICTION TO SELF. WEAK ATTACHMENT TO COMFORT ZONE LEAD TO STRONG ADDICTION TO COMFORT ZONE. A PERSON WHO IS OUTSIDE OF HIS COMFORT ZONE HAS STRONG ADDICTION TO COMFORT ZONE.

OWNERSHIP LEAD TO COMPETITION, MINE IS BETTER, BEST, NICER, NICEST, ETC.

EVERYONE HAS ITS OWN ILLNESS, THIS OWNERSHIP AND DENIAL.
WHEN HEALTHY, PEOPLE DON'T HURT. PEOPLE CAN HURT IN THE NAME OF PROFESSIONALISM OR DISORDER OR ILLNESS. THESE ARE EXCUSE. PEOPLE HURT WHEN THEY ARE IN PAIN AND TO GET RID OF THE PAIN. BECAUSE IT IS PLEASURABLE TO HURT.

OWNERSHIP OR KEPEMILIKAN IS A CONSEQUENCE OF LIVING IN SOCIAL SYSTEM. ANOTHER FACTOR, DENIAL IS A CONFLICT AS BETWEEN OWN SELF AND SOCIAL SYSTEM.

SELF-EMOTION

THE SOURCE OF SUFFERING IS HIDDEN SELF
THE SELF IS MADE OUT OF EMOTIONS
WHEN SELF IS SURPRESSED, THE EMOTION IS SURPRESSED
WHAT IS SURPRESSED IS THE NEGATIVE EMOTION THAT PROTECT THE SELF
WE CREATE A SELF WITH POSITIVE EMOTION, THE MASK
BUT THE MASK IS FAKE AND SUPERFICIAL, IT'S EMPTY
THE REAL SELF IS THE SELF THAT HAS THE REAL EMOTION BECAUSE IT IS REAL

MENTAL MARTIAL ARTS

WE DON'T DEAL WITH PHYSICAL CONFLICT AND FIGHT ANYMORE IN OUR INTRASPECIES CONFLICT.
WE DEAL MORE WITH MENTAL AND LINGUISTIC CONFLICTS WHERE THREATENING GESTURE AND WORDS ARE THROWN INSTEAD OF STONES.
OUR EMOTIONS STILL REACT THE SAME.
LIKE THE PHYSICAL MARTIAL ARTS, THE ABILITY TO CONTROL EMOTIONS IS THE BASIC SKILLS, ESPECIALLY FEAR AND GREED
THE ABILITY TO DEFEND SELF AND OFFENSE

5-6-12

SELF SURVIVAL (EMOTION) VS RECIPROCICAL (MIND)

MIND IS GPS PROVIDING NAVIGATION INFORMATION, EITHER PRESENT OR MAP OR FUTURE OR DISTANT NAVIGATION. PRESENT CONTINUE TO FUTURE NAVIGATION.

KNOWLEDGE BASE IS EXPERIENCED EVENT.

MIND IS ALWAYS PLANNING A TRIP OR EVENT. BUT THE PLANNING IS TRIAL ERROR. PLANNING OR DESCRIBING PLACE OR EVENT.

LIKE ALARM SYSTEM, IT GETS LOUDER IN EMERGENCY.

WHAT IS RECORDED IS THE MAP NOT TERRITORY. LIKE TRAFFIC, WE ONLY NEED TO LEARN THE RULES. WE LEARN PEOPLE STRUCTURE.

THERE ARE TRAFFIC LAW AND NAVIGATION (DRIVING SKILLS).

WE HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH GPS BECAUSE IT DOESN'T HURT US LIKE HUMAN.

WE HAVE PROBLEM WHEN WE CAN GET HURT.

sunday 5-6-12

MELIHAT PIKIRAN ITU BERPIKIR, SAMA DENGAN MEMBUAT PIKIRAN
SEPERTI ADA 2 ORANG YANG MENGIRIM DAN MENERIMA PIKIRAN ITU
TAPI HANYA ADA 1 ORANG  YANG MENGIRIM DAN MENERIMA PIKIRAN ITU
SAMA SEPERTI SENSASI DI TANGAN, SEPERTI ADA SI TANGAN YANG DISENTUH DAN ADA TANGAN  YANG MENYENTUH ATAU ORANG YANG BISA MENDENGARKAN SUARA SENDIRI.
JADI HANYA ADA SATU SENSASI, SATU PIKIRAN, SATU PENGELIHATAN, SATU SUARA.
UNTUK MELIHAT, HARUS BERHENTI MELIHAT PIKIRAN ATAU HARUS BERHENTI BERPIKIR.


A SPECIES/CREATURE IS CUNNING, SELF FOCUSED, YIELDING, AGGRESSIVE, PASSIVE IS TO SEE THE SPECIES AT ITS BEST.

DON'T GET ATTACHED TO THOUGHT OR FEELING. THEY DON;T MEAN A THING. OUR BODY REACT TO GHOSTLY IMAGES.

REHABILITASI

A PERSON IS A PERSON WHO HAS FEELING, BODY, THOUGHT, BEHAVIOR. KELAINAN/DISORDER IS KELAINAN DARI NORMAL.

LABEL/STIGMA BISA MEMBUAT ORANG MENJADI MINORITAS DENGAN EMOSI:
1. SENSITIVE
2. BINGUNG
3. FRUSTASI
4. HELPLESS
5. VICTIM STANCE
6. MALU

PROFFESIONAL, PERSONAL SUPPORT ENVIRONMENT, DAN CLIENT MEMPUNYAI DUNIA YANG BERBEDA.

DALAM BERAGAMA, ORANG YANG MASIH MEMBICARAKAN "PERCAYA" BERARTI MASIH RAGU AKAN KEPERCAYAANNYA.

LIFE IS WHAT WE THINK IT IS, THAT'S WHAT WE EMOTIONALLY ATTACH TO, TO THE LABEL/STIGMA THAT HAS AFFECTIVE CONNOTATION. IF WE ARE NOT AWARE, WE ARE CONDITIONED TO BELIEVE IT. WORLD IS LINGUISTIC ENVIRONMENT.

WE ARE ATTACHED TO OUR IMAGINATION BECAUSE WE ARE NOT FOCUSED ENOUGH TO SEE IT. WE THEN REACT THEN BECOME SENSITIVE, CONFUSE AND STRESS OURSELVES. WE ALL LIVE IN OUR OWN WORLD. OTHER PEOPLE REACT TO IMAGES IN THEIR MIND LIKE WE REACT TO IMAGES IN OUR MIND.

UNCONSCIOUS COMPETENCE

WHAT MATTER IS WHAT WE BELIEVE NOT WHAT WE ARE
HEALTHY PERSONALITY IS PREFERENCE, UNHEALTHY PERSONALITY IS METAPHYSICAL
WE LIVE IN PERCEPTUAL/LINGUISTIC/INFORMATIVE WORLD, LINGUISTIC ENVIRONMENT

UNCONSCIOUS LOW ESTEEM, CONSCIOUS LOW ESTEEM, CONSCIOUS HIGH ESTEEM, AND UNCONSCIOUS HIGH ESTEEM. SOME PRETEND TO BE CONSCIOUS HIGH ESTEEM. PRETENDING IS ALWAYS CONSCIOUS. ALL, IF NOT MOST, LOW ESTEEM IS CONSCIOUS ENABLING IT TO CHANGE. OKB = CONSCIOUSLY RICH IS NOT RICH.

UNCONSCIOUSNESS CAN BE DENIAL OR HABITUAL

WE CAN BE PROBLEM FOCUS OR SOLUTION FOCUS, WE CAN BE NEGATIVE OR POSITIVE WITHOUT IGNORING/DENYING THE NEGATIVE/PROBLEMS BUT BY UNDERSTANDING IT.

WHEN CRISIS OR TRAUMA, SHADOW WILL SHOW
LIKE TEARS WILL MESS UP MAKE UP
WHEN COMFORT, WE ONLY SEE MAKE UP.

WE ARE PRODUCTS OF ENVIRONMENT, GROW AS SOWN
LIFE IS A STRUGGLE TO SURVIVE, SOME COLLECT TOO MUCH AND FALL ON ITS OWN WEIGHT
COLLECTING RESOURCE TO GUARANTEE SURVIVAL, MONEY POWER AND FAME
SOME ARE LEFT WITH LITTLE, UNABLE TO BE EXPLAINED BY SCIENCE
THIS IS WHERE RELIGION COMES IN TO BALANCE THE SOCIAL SYSTEM
BY HELPING THE POOR AND HELPLESS OPPRESSED BY THE SOCIAL SYSTEM
ENPOWERING THE POOR

WE ARE ONLY AS STRONG AS OUR WEAKEST LINK.
WE WILL GET HURT IF WE DON'T TAKE CARE OF THE LOWLY
HELPING A GROUP BY HELPING THE WEAKEST

SELF DEVELOPMENT

A CHILD DEVELOP SELF IN A SAFE FAMILY ENVIRONMENT UNTIL HE GOES TO SCHOOL
IN SCHOOL, HE LEARN TO DEVELOP HIS SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT
THE SELF DEVELOPMENT WILL BECOME INTROVERTED ENVIRONMENT
THE SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT WILL BECOME EXTROVERTED ENVIRONMENT

A CHILD WHO GROW UP IN HOSTILE FAMILY ENVIRONMENT WILL HAVE A HOSTILE INTROVERTED ENVIRONMENT
A CHILD WHO GROW UP IN HOSTILE SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT WILL HAVE A HOSTILE EXTROVERTED ENVIRONMENT

A HOSTILE INTROVERT WILL ACT HOSTILE IN INTIMATE ENVIRONMENT BUT NOT IN SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT
A HOSTILE EXTROVERT MAY ACT HOSTILE IN SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT BUT NOT IN INTIMATE ENVIRONMENT

SOME CHILDREN CAN FOLLOW RULES, SOME CHILDREN HAS TO TEST RULES

FEAR OF DEATH, EMPATHY

FEAR OF DEATH, EMPATHY, SUFFERING, PUNISHMENT,

EMPATHY IS EMPATHY TO SUFFERING NOT TO FEAR OF SUFFERING

PERSONALITY TO COVER UP FLAW/SHADOW
VICTIMIZING TO COVER UP VICTIM
THIS VICTIM IS THE SOURCE OF SUFFERING AND IS THE ENGINE OF SOOTHING BEHAVIOR.
WHEN UNHAPPY, LOOKING FOR HAPPINESS
BEING A VICTIM IS TRAUMATIZING
TO HAVE A LOW UGLY BAD SELF THAT I HATE IS THE SOURCE OF PR AND DAMAGE CONTROL BEHAVIOR
WHEN THIRSTY LOOKING FOR WATER.
WHEN SUFFERING LOOKING FOR PLEASURE
WHEN CRAVING LOOKING FOR PLEASURE.

BEING HUMAN-5/2/12

PEOPLE ARE CREATED EQUAL BUT DIFFERENT
GOD MASS PRODUCE ALL BEING
WE ALL HAVE THE SAME PART AND FORM BUT MADE FROM SEPARATE MATERIAL
LIKE A LUMP OF CLAY IS TURNED INTO 3 STATUES, THOSE 3 STATUES ARE MADE FROM DIFFERENT CLAY.
SO, BIOLOGICALLY, WE ARE DIFFERENT BUT SIMILAR
WE ARE ALSO EXPOSED TO DIFFERENT NURTURING ENVIRONMENT.

BIOLOGICALLY, WE HAVE THE SAME PARTS (PHYSICAL) AND FORM (APPEARANCE) BUT WE HAVE DIFFERENT CELLS. MY CELLS IS NOT YOUR CELLS.
THE BIGGEST DIFFERENCE IS THE ENVIRONMENT (PHYSICAL AND SOCIAL/CULTURAL)

DEATH AND MARKETING OF FEAR

WE ALL ARE GOING TO DIE
THE FEAR OF DYING IS THE MOTHER OF ALL FEARS
RESPONDING TO THE THREAT OF DEATH OR ATTEMPT TO DELAY DEATH, WE GET BULLIED BY PEOPLE AND THE WORLD.
FEAR OF DYING IS THE MOTHER OF LOW SELF ESTEEM, ANXIETY.

WE ALL ARE INFLUENCED BY CULTURE, THE LITERARY AND MEDIA
OF DRAMATIZATION OF THE WORLD TO SELL WITH HUMOR AND ATTRACTIVE WORDS
DRAMATIZATION OF LIFE AND DEATH IN JUSTIFYING FEAR AND NARCISISIM
THE HAPPY ENDING AND GOOD AND EVIL

LIFE IS HUGE BIG LOTTERY, SOME PEOPLE ARE PROUD TO WIN A LOTERRY
LIKE WINNING A VISA LOTTERY

PEOPLE ARE CREATED EQUAL BUT DIFFERENT
GOD MASS PRODUCE ALL BEING
WE ALL HAVE THE SAME PART AND FORM BUT MADE FROM SEPARATE MATERIAL
LIKE A LUMP OF CLAY IS TURNED INTO 3 STATUES, THOSE 3 STATUES ARE MADE FROM DIFFERENT CLAY.
SO, BIOLOGICALLY, WE ARE DIFFERENT BUT SIMILAR
WE ARE ALSO EXPOSED TO DIFFERENT NURTURING ENVIRONMENT.

BIOLOGICALLY, WE HAVE THE SAME PARTS (PHYSICAL) AND FORM (APPEARANCE) BUT WE HAVE DIFFERENT CELLS. MY CELLS IS NOT YOUR CELLS.
THE BIGGEST DIFFERENCE IS THE ENVIRONMENT (PHYSICAL AND SOCIAL/CULTURAL)