memberi dan menerima

KALAU POSITIVE, MENERIMA LEBIH MUDAH DARI MEMBERI
KALAU NEGATIVE, MEMBERI LEBIH MUDAH DARI MENERIMA
MENCELA LEBIH MUDAH DARI DICELA, DIPUJI LEBIH MUDAH DARI DIPUJI
MENGHINA LEBIH MUDAH DARI DIHINA

MENGHUKUM LEBIH MUDAH DARI DIHUKUM
TAPI MENERIMA HADIAH LEBIH MUDAH DARI MEMBERI HADIAH

MENANG LEBIH BAIK DARIPADA KALAH
WE WANT TO WIN BUT WE HATE TO LOSE
WE WANT TO WIN AND OTHERS TO LOSE BUT WE HATE OTHERS TO WIN BECAUSE WE LOSE
IT'S OK FOR US TO ACT TO WIN BUT WHEN OTHERS ACT THE SAME WAY TO WIN, WE HATE IT
IT'S OKAY FOR US TO ACT TO GET WHAT WE WANT, BUT WHEN OTHERS ACT THE SAME WAY TO GET WHAT HE WANTS WE HATE IT ESPECIALLY IF WE HAVE TO SUFER FOR IT
IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH CONTROL AND BEING CONTROLLED
I PREFER TO CONTROL AND BEING CONTROL
IF OTHERS ARE IN CONTROL THAT MEANS I AM NOT IN CONTROL
THIS LACK OF CONTROL IS THE PASSIVE ATTITUDE THAT LEAD TO ANXIETY
DUE TO IGNORANCE IN SELF AND PERMANENCE
I AM AFRAID TO LOSE CONTROL AND ANXIOUS TO HOLD ON TO CONTROL
AFRAID TO LET GO TO TRUST AND BE VULNERABLE
I AM AFRAID TO BE CONTROLLED BECAUSE EVERYBODY IS SELFISH AND LIKE TO BE IN CONTROL
SO, IT'S A STRUGGLE OF CONTROL AND COMPETITION
I SEE OTHERS AS MY SELF AND MY SELF AS OTHERS
I SPLIT MY SELF AND OTHERS.
IT'S OK IF I WIN, BUT IT'S NOT OK IF THE OTHERS WIN
BUT MY SELF AND OTHERS ARE THE SAME, SELFISH AND WANT TO CONTROL THEIR OWN LIFE
THE SAME REASON WHY WE DON'T TICKLE OURSELVES
BECAUSE WE HAVE DIFFERENT WIRE REGARDING OUR SELVES AND OTHERS
WE HAVE BETTER SUBJECTIVE VIEW OF OUR SELVES THAN OTHERS
OUR SELVES IS SUBJECTIVELY BETTER THAN OTHERS
OTHERS ARE WE PLACE OUR SELVES ON OTHERS (INCOMPLETE AND APPEARANCE)
WE DON'T HAVE A COMPLETE PICTURE
AT THE SAME TIME, WE ALSO COMPARE OUR SELVES TO OTHERS (INCOMPLETE AND APPEARANCE)

LIKE PLAYING A GAME OR SELLING A CAR

OTHERS ARE JUST LIKE ME. I AM FINE WITH ME BUT NOT FINE WITH OTHERS. WHY?
BECAUSE I AM ONE WITH ME BUT NOT ONE WITH OTHERS
OTHERS ARE DIFFERENT AND OTHERS HAVE THEIR OWN ONENESS
LIKE I DON'T MIND HITTING MYSELF BUT NOT WHEN HIT BY OTHERS
I AM FINE IN MY WORLD, BUT OTHERS ARE NOT FINE IN MY WORLD
OTHERS ARE FINE IN THEIR OWN WORLD
I CAN'T ASK OTHERS TO LIVE IN MY WORLD

I HAVE DIFFERENT VIEW OF MYSELF AND OTHERS
I AM FINE WITH MY SMOKING AND OTHER BAD BEHAVIORS
BUT I AM TROUBLED BY OTHERS BAD BEHAVIORS
KARNA MEREKA MERUGIKAN AKU
TAPI MY BAD BEHAVIORS TIDAK MERUGIKAN AKU, MUNGKIN MERUGIKAN ORANG LAIN.
MY BAD BEHAVIORS MENGUNTUNGKAN AKU. I CREATE IDEAL SELF

WE LAUGH AT OTHERS, BUT EMBARRASED BY SAME BEHAVIORS

WE COMPARE OTHERS BEHAVIOR TO IDEAL STANDARD, MY IDEAL SELF
BUT WE DON'T COMPARE OUR BEHAVIOR TO IDEAL STANDARD BECAUSE WE BELIEVE WE ARE IDEAL STANDARD

WE EXPECT OTHERS TO IDEAL STANDARD OR SOCIAL DESIRABLE OR CIVILIZED OR NICE NOT TO HURT US TO OUR STANDARD.


I ONLY SEE THE IDEAL ME IN MY MIND, I AM THE IDEAL, AND SEE OTHERS AS LESS THAN IDEAL. I ONLY SEE A GOOD ME, I AM GOOD AND EVERYBODY ELSE IS BAD.
NARCISSISTIC MASK.

WHEN I AM COMFORTABLE AND  SATISFIED, I USE THE 3RD PERSON VIEW ON OTHERS AND IS VERY JUDGEMENTAL, LIKE WHEN MY FRIEND HAS TO TAKE A TEST AND I DON'T FEEL STRESSFUL, BUT IF I HAVE TO TAKE THE TEST I FEEL THE STRESS. BUT I DON'T ADMIT IT AND BLAME OTHERS. BECAUSE I AM NOT AS WEAK AS OTHERS. WHEN OTHERS TAKE THE TEST, THEY ARE STRESSFUL AND IT'S THEIR FAULT. BUT WHEN I TAKE THE TEST, THE TEST IS THE PROBLEM.

WHEN OTHERS SUFFER, WE ATTRIBUTE IT TO THE PERSON. WHEN WE SUFFER, WE JUSTIFY AND ATTRIBUTE IT TO FACTORS INSIDE AND OUTSIDE OF OUR SELF AND IT'S NOT OUR FAULT. JUSTIFICATION.


WHEN OTHERS SUFFER, BECAUSE THE WAY HE IS OR WHAT HE DOES. WHEN I SUFFER, IT'S BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE'S FAULT OR OTHER EXTERNAL FACTORS (JUSTIFICATION).

IGNORANT DOESN'T KNOW THIS, THEY ASK FOR HAPPINESS BUT GIVE SUFFERING

TO BE ENTERTAINED IS EASIER THAN TO ENTERTAINED

TO BE HELPED IS EASIER THAN TO HELP


THIS IS THE HABIT OF SELF. SELF DOESN'T TEAMWORK
EACH PERSON WANTS THEIR OWN HAPPINESS OR FAME OR POWER
BUT PUTTING DOWN OTHERS HAPPINESS OR FAME OR POWER

FOR TEAMWORK TO WORK, EACH PERSON HAS TO PUT OTHERS HAPPINESS FIRST