Self feel good

Self is our feel good or feel bad center
Self must be strong enough to stand on its own then it will disapear
and will only appear to protect our life
too strong and too weak self will disrupt relationship balance with others

Self is like magnet looking for feel good.
Too strong self will eat others and too weak self will get eaten by others

Self appears with pain and pleasure
Too strong self demands too much pleasure and will get frustrated and demands more pleasure
too weak self gets frustrated and create own pleasure

Moderate self serve its purpose to regulate relationship
while maintaining individuality in partnership with others

Large public life creates larger self to protect self but can risk creating overself
especially if the self is a superiority/inferiority complex.
self can be a strong/weak self complex
underdeveloped/overdeveloped self
underdeveloped self gets frustrated caused by dependent on others
overdeveloped self gets frustrated caused by independent relationship that knows no partnership
underdeveloped needs to learn more independence and overdeveloped needs to learn more partnership

pain is boundary of self.