compulsive behaviors

A fool say something because they have to say, a wise because they have something to say.
A fool do something because they have to do it, a wise because they have something to do
A fool shop because they have to buy something, a wise because they have something to buy

For a fool, the behaviors itself produce the pleasure. This is the psychological factor of any addiction and the compulsiveness. Compulsiveness is a soothing behavior. It is normal for children to engage in compulsive behaviors where the behavior itself gives them the pleasure. As an adults, our behaviors should be object based not feeling based. Children play not because they have something to play because they have to play something. Behavior for children is like a magic wand they can wave to produce pleasure.

Compulsiveness is a sign of immaturity for adults, where they get stuck in underdevelopment. They still engage in feeling based behaviors, children's defense mechanism and soothing behaviors against growing up hazzards, the illusions that was cleared up in adulthood.

Adults use compulsive behaviors to manipulate feelings or to feel better about themselves. Shopping, games, sex, addiction, relationship, etc. They even engage in meditation or spiritual reading or learning compulsively.

Adults get satisfaction from the objects, not from the behaviors. Children get pleasure from behaviors. Children make decision by feeling without thinking, adults make decisions by thinking without feeling. Children feels first before making decision then thinking afterwards. Adults think first before making decision then feeling afterwards.

Children's behaviors are not compulsive, they lack mental process as part of natural development. Adults childish behaviors is compulsive, feeling based and lack of mental development.

In childhood, we rely on emotion
a mature adults rely on mind
suffering is caused by feelings
all illusion/dream is all feeling based attachment
maturity/enlightenment is all mental phenomena
the peak of evolutionary development process
the ability to think without being hijacked by feeling.

children lack empathy, self centered, and are bundle of feeling and personality, bipolar.