Suffering

Suffering is indeed the test of nature
where a person's strength is not in the offense but on the defense
how strong he can take a hit and how he can bear the pain
how he can tame his emotion by his physical and mental stamina
everybody can offend and hit, but not many can take a hit

the development of self began long time ago with a split
prior, we have a direct relationship with environment
we are at the mercy of our environment and try to adapt to the environment
then, we learn to leave the relationship with the environment
by developing cognition
by supposing/simulating/learning/practicing our skills before meeting the real environment
our behavior becomes delayed reaction and planned
we develop the "Self Me"
the relationship with the "SM" is the self psychology
the loop between feeling and thoughts due to attachment to this Self
It is our defense mechanism for our social environment
This strategy gives PRESENT advantage over PAST problems (living in the wild)
however, we are still in transition to deal with present problems
living in civilized and safe society, we becomes bored and overemote
humanity gives us the skills to deal with the worst, not the average
we create own drama and stimulation out of boredom

Self is our overmeet needs/over adaptive skills
that enables us to leave the relationship with environment
narcissism is oversocial needs
even suffering is overexpectation for needs due to attachment
we grab the "self" as if we are grabbing the body when we are stress
we are living in imaginary world/simulation word where self represents body and mind is the environment
introvert regulate self to regulate environment
extrovert regulate environment to regulate self

we leave the relationship with nature by developing competence or skills
compare yourself driving with and without skills
where competence is the ability to regulate self and environment
the first step is regulating the car then the road.

Feeling and cognition has the opposite relationship with the senses and perception
when one is on, the other is off
the senses and perception is our relationship with nature
feeling and cognition is our overadaptive skills that leaves the relationship with nature...