Cultural Self

Cultural self is our make up, the dress that we wear as told by our culture
the social desirable as culture dependent
behind every cultural self, the group self, hide the individual self
for nature always favor the group than individual
the individual is sacrificed, repressed, and belittled
the liberation of the individual is the freedom,
the happiness

recovery process involved releasing the self imprisoned by the culture
the individuation process and the cultural identity process work hand in hand
without attacking the culture and sacrificing the self
to live in peace for both of them
suffering is our anger and frustration of our incarceration
we want to be free but we don't know how
the process involve minimizing the culture and maximizing the individual
we are repressed behind social self with our desire to be liked
the attachment for belongingness keep others more important than what they really are
they are not important
they may not like to hear it but it's true
fear of dissapointing others, anxiety to please
to win a social trophy
I sacrifice trophy from self in order to chase trophy from others
desire for esteem by others
so codependent...

sociocultural self is the chameleon self
but, unlike chameleon who only change when self defense
we forget that about the chameleon
we suffer when we change
this extend to who we marry, what we think and what we should feel
there is a dynamic conflict between the individual and sociocultural self
we experience anger when we experience parts of individual and sociocultural
it's rebellion
this is a process of adapting to environment